Are you bringing faith or fear into this world? (Hint: pick one only, there’s not room for both)

Good morning friends💜

My heart is telling me I need to write about energy today. Clearly with all the horrific news and school shootings, it’s left it’s mark on many.

My social media is filled with negativity. I mean more so then normal. I sometimes feel like I’m all alone in trying to spread the love. It feels as though people only want to share conflict and drama.

We’ve trained ourselves to be addicted to the negative. We have to get real with ourselves and our own roles in this world.

I started a Facebook page called Tay Tay Inspires, so I could actually put some love into the Universe. I know that I can’t change a thing by sitting around and pointing the finger, so I decided to take action.

America you scare me right now!

Why is that as soon as a catastrophe hits us, we immediately fall apart and start pointing the finger at each other.

Why do we feel the need to cause even more contempt and drama by sharing our fears with our friends and simultaneously attacking everyone else who doesn’t agree with us.

It’s nearly impossible to have an adult conversation today with people whose views are different then mine. I am always willing to understand where your coming from and why. What I’m not willing to do is to try to convince you that I’m right.

I don’t need you to think like me, or to agree with me. I don’t feel the need to be right, but I often feel the need to be heard. I want to be seen and to be understood, as does every single human being on this planet.

When you decide to comment or share or like something online, are you adding to chaos or are you dissipating the evil?

Are you sharing more anger, frustration, and fears?

Or

Are you sharing love, kindness, and faith?

I urge you to ask yourself honestly if you are part of the solution or the problem!?!?

Will you take the time to encourage a stranger?

Or

Will you become so self righteous that your mission includes shaming others until they feel the same way you do?

I choose to share the light and love.

There are many times during the week I feel that kindness is an uphill battle. If I quit writing about loving yourself, and I started writing a bunch of gossip and drama, I could probably get more readers and subscribers.

But then I wouldn’t be doing my part to spread the love. So no matter how hard it gets, I will continue on my path and share my love with the world. I wasn’t born to be normal and I sure wasn’t born to fit in, but I do believe I was born for this.

I’m strong enough to stand up for love And I hope you are too!

Thanks for stopping in Friends I hope you have an amazing day💜

Peace Namaste God Bless

Pride is a spiritual cancer and here’s why

Pride is a spiritual cancer.

Unfortunately it masks itself so well that we often convince ourselves that pride is normal. Maybe you learned pride from your parents, or maybe you learned it at school, maybe your not even aware of it, but after this article you will be.

It’s time to investigate the hold that it has over your life and your spirit. It’s time to get real with yourself. Which can be very scary especially if you’ve been avoiding yourself you’re entire life. (I resemble this)

Did you know that pride was one of the 7 deadly sins?

“It was pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels”

St. Augustine

Pride is an excessive belief in one’s own abilities that interferes with the individual’s recognition of the grace of God.

I know there have been times in my life when I let pride get in the way of what my heart truly wanted. However, I’ve worked really, really hard on trying to come from a place of love instead of a place of ego!

If you want to change your life you have to change yourself. You must take an honest appraisal of who you are on the inside. Ask your closest friends what you need to work on, they will be honest and loving instead of judgemental. They see you though graceful eyes, and only want the best for you.

Remember friends, God already knows all of your flaws, and all of your secrets.

He gives us free will because he wants us to choose him instead of choosing ourselves.

There are many things that you can do to help rid yourself of pride. The first one is just recognizing it and learning to let it go.

You will be richly rewarded one day for all the work you do while your here on earth. I hope that you have the courage to look inside and be real with you, because your so worth it.

Peace

God Bless

Namaste

Monday Morning Blessings From My Home to yours

Yesterday morning my family and I experienced an amazing gift together. We finally became members of our church after 10 amazing years of going there.

Some of you might be thinking that’s a really long time to go to a church before officially committing to it, and I would almost agree.

However, sharing this special moment with our daughter made the timing impeccable. I think God always has a plan for our lives, but as with most things they occur when he is ready, and not necessarily when we are ready.

I happen to believe that this weekend was exactly as it should have been. And you better believe the devil was alive and well this week. Attacking our marriage, our faith and our hearts all at once. He doesn’t want us to become members of our church. He wants us to fall for all of his shenanigans, but I’m to smart for him.

The school shooting last week nearly broke all of our hearts, and the sadness in the world is overwhelming. But we persevered, because this is after all Gods plan not ours.

In the midst of a the darkness we chose the light. I will forever be thankful for this amazing day and I wouldn’t change a single thing. Gods love is exactly what the world needs more of.

I hope you fill your heart with love and give it to the world. Everyday when I sit down to write, I imagine what your heart needs, and I try to fill it.

My gift is writing and sharing what is yours?

God Bless

Peace

Namaste

If you want to know who failed to stop the shooting in Florida read this (a mom who refuses to be quite any longer)

If you want to know who failed to stop the shooting in Florida read this (a mom who refuses to be quite any longer)

https://taytaysfreshfaces.com/2018/02/16/if-you-want-to-know-who-failed-to-stop-the-shooting-in-florida-read-this-a-mom-who-refuses-to-be-quite-any-longer/
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If you want to know who failed to stop the shooting in Florida read this (a mom who refuses to be quite any longer)

Its time to stop wasting time and energy by making school shootings a political debate. My husband teaches 7th grade, and my daughter is in the 7th grade at the same school. That’s pretty much more then half of my heart in one place.

I don’t live my life in fear, but once in a blue moon I say an extra prayer for them as they leave in the morning to head to school together.

It’s a little scary when hearing about a school shooting has become the norm. It’s like are you kidding me? Is this seriously fucking happening again? I live in a very small town in Ohio.

Within our county and the surrounding ones our schools have had their own shootings along with a multiple suicides (caused by bullying and Social media) and other tragic events. Yes the danger is lurking in my back yard. Some of my closest and dearest friends had kids at these schools.

I saw them hurting up close and personal. I know what it’s like to be afraid and to feel helpless. I felt their pain and saw the fear in their eyes as they waited to see if their own kids were ok.

I experienced anxiety along side with them the whole time, wishing I could do something to help them. But the only thing I could really do was pray.

Until today when I realized I could be quiet no more.

God gave me a voice and I’m going to use it today honor him. I have what it takes to speak my mind and to stand alone.

I’m so disgusted by the lack of action taken to help our children now a days. If a child at your school commits suicide, we need to understand fully how they felt, and why they felt that way. It needs to be talked about and then there needs to be some kind of prevention/intervention.

What can we do as parents to make sure this never happens again? What can do to keep this child’s memory alive? How can we use their social media as a tool to show our kids what to look for?

Our children need to know that we are here for them and that we will take action on their part.

I think Sometimes we just want the bad stuff to go away. We don’t want our town to have a bad reputation, so we do our best to make it all go away as soon as possible.

I’m not saying that they don’t hold a vigil, or give the students council, because they do just that in the beginning. But shortly after that it’s as though most officials want it swept under the rug. They want the cloud to be lifted and they want the sadness to go away.

But guess what guys, as you can tell by our latest shooting, it’s not going away. It’s not getting better, and I’m sure there’s more to come.

Instead of blaming mental illness and guns, let’s get to the real issues here. Stop using these horrific deaths of young kids, to gain your political growth. It’s awful to watch and to listen to some of you.

Blame is for the weak.

The truth of the matter is these kids told many people and no one listened. Do you know how hard it is to talk to an adult about something like this when your a kid? It’s very hard because our kids brains are not fully developed yet. There’s no frontal lobe.

These kids tried to do the right thing and no one took them seriously. So don’t you sit there for one minute and blame this on anyone or anything else.

There were many opportunities for someone to stop this before it happened. We are failing our children on so many levels that I want to quit my job and travel around the world speaking to schools and to parents and helping them learn to listen.

Someone has to do something! Stop worrying about being politically correct and start worrying about what you can do to help the youth in America!

Accountability starts with you and I.

We need to learn how to listen when kids are brave enough to talk to us. Don’t let your opinion or your fears cloud the moment, because you always have a choice.

You can do what serves yourself or you can do what serves our children.

I’ll speak up for them

I will help them find a way to be heard

I won’t sweep anything under the rug

And I won’t let another kid die without trying to make a difference.

#useyourvoice

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

What would you do if you weren’t afraid?

What would you try if you knew that failing was ok?

What kind of chances are you willing to take on yourself?

These are a few questions that you need to ask yourself if you want to change anything about your life.

My mission in life involves learning and teaching 🙋‍♀️

Sharing and growing myself so that others can do the same.

If I would have waited to start writing a blog until I had it all figured out, I would have never even started. It’s impossible to have everything figured out.

That’s not when we grow friends.

We will never grow by doing things that are our normal.

If you find yourself month after month going through the same day over and over again, with little excitement in your heart then you will know that it’s time for a change.

You are the creator of your life

You are worthy of amazing things

But you have to be willing to get uncomfortable

And be prepared to fail.

My greatest internal growth always comes after its darkest.

You only get this one life, and I hope that you use it wisely.

Don’t be afraid of what could wrong

Be afraid of living the same year over and over again

From a little girl to a grown ass woman; My true life struggles and joys with February 14th #TruthsWithTayTay

Happy Valentines Day Friends 💜

Today I’m celebrating my 20th Valentine with my husband. That’s absolutely unbelievable to type. Where does 20 years go?

Right now Friends and family are doing the math, thinking they haven’t been married for 20 years! It will only be 18 this year. But I’ll have you know, we actually celebrated a couple of them before we were married.

I didn’t want you to be side tracked by the numbers and miss the entire story, you can thank me later. 💜

It seems as though Valentines Day has changed for me many times over the years. Or actually, just maybe…………it was me who has changed over the years. I’m almost 100% positive that it’s always been on the 14th of February. So, now that I think about it has to be me. 💜

The fact that I am always changing is actually a really good thing. Like an Amazing thing. It means that I am always evolving, growing, blossoming, and learning. It means that I am not satisfied with what I already know about myself.

I am excited to see what the second half of my life brings because every year I love my life more.

When I was little girl and V Day rolled around, I clearly remember getting excited about having a party at school. And I also remember going home and looking at my cards from my classmates, and reading each one to see if the boy I liked gave me one that was more then friendly. Like instead of saying ” your groovy” it might say “your the apple of my eye”.

To my 8 year old self that was my first experience with Valentines Day. That memory is still with me today. It was fun and exciting and new, and it brought with it a new set of feelings.

“I like boys”

began during Valentines for sure. It is after all the day of 💕 LOVE!

And so began my love hate relationship with Valentines Day. Sometimes I welcomed it, and other times I shunned that shit. But both of those ways, I was still learning.

In my early 20’s when I didn’t have a boyfriend, then of course that’s all I wanted when Valentines Day rolled around. I was all whoa is me, I don’t have anyone to celebrate with. Thank God there was no social media when I was younger, because that would have just been awful.

I only had my friends and their boyfriends to be jealous of. Which actually made the whole thing bearable. My friends and I usually found some sway to cause a ruckus and have a little (or a lot) of fun. #shenanigins

When I finally met my husband, a years later, I was super excited for us to spend our first Valentines day together. I couldn’t wait to exchange presents with him and celebrate our amazing love for one another. I vividly remember getting him a pair of black silk boxers with hearts on them. And like any good man, he held onto those bad boys until a few years ago when I threw them away. They were no longer covered in hearts, and the elastic had long ago Worn out. But I will never forgot those boxers💜 or the memories that came with them.

Fast forward a few years, a new baby and welcome to my 30’s. At this point I want to enjoy Valentines day still, but somehow, we let it go. I believe that part of me tried for a few years, but after my husband didn’t want to celebrate, then I didn’t want to either.

For a minute, I kept my hopes up thinking that maybe he just might surprise me and do something sweet. And by sweet I didn’t mean going out to dinner with a check his mom sent us to celebrate. While I love her for doing that for us and we appreciate it immensely, this did not help my husband work his romance muscle. I fact it probably did the opposite, it made him think less about what our plans would be.

Instead of spending time being upset that I was married and unable to celebrate love, I just decided one day that it didn’t matter anymore. I thought that it wasn’t important and that I could celebrate myself.

I was totally a hater of V day in my 30’s. I was like many others in saying things like it’s a Hallmark Holiday, or we celebrate our love every day so we don’t need to do it today.

Poor Valentine’s Day was getting the brunt of my anger again. That Saint didn’t want to do anything but share the love, and here I was wishing it would just go away. On the outside I talked a good game, on the inside I wasn’t feeling it.

Mid 30’s we became so routine in our giving of presents that we actually bought each other tanning packages. That’s right I said it!!!! He bought me tanning and I bought him tanning. I know for a fact this was his idea, what I’m not so sure about it why I thought it was a good idea! 🙋‍♀️

There was a part of me that whispered “it’s ok to want more, your sooooooo worth it.”

My husband used to be romantic! He used to surprise me and write me love letters and open my door for me. All of those things made me love him even more. I realized that I needed that part of him again.

So I decided to listen to the voice inside my heart, instead of the voice inside of my head.

This year when my sexy husband asked me if we were exchanging tanning sessions I stunned him and myself by saying “no”! He was a little confused and asked me what I wanted to do.

I told him I didn’t care what it was, but I wanted him to think about and then surprise me. I told him to pretend like we were dating and he was trying to impress me again.

It felt so good to reclaim that part of my spirit, of my heart of my soul. It felt amazing to share my true feelings with him and was also I excited to be doing something new.

I signed us up for a couples yoga class tonight, and I did buy him some tanning sessions.

But

This morning when I woke up there was a card and a devotional for me. He did exactly what I asked him to do. He got me something he knew I would love and he wrote an amazing message for me in my card.

My love language is words of affirmations and gifts, and he hit the nail right on the head with both of those things.

I’m back to loving V day again because I decided to make it special. I realized what was important to me and I was brave enough to ask for it.

I can’t wait to do dinner and yoga with my man very soon, and I’m beyond blessed that I was brave enough to listen to the whispers of my heart. 💜

You just might find yourself in one of these scenarios or maybe in all of them. I think having a happy marriage and fulfilling future requires work.

I think love is always the answer and it’s up to us decide how we receive it!

I hope you have a wonderful night and no matter how you feel about Valentine’s Day this year, know that next year will be different!

Peace

Namaste

God Bless

I love my Valentine