When you try to control life it cuts you off from your own heart

Your attempt to control the life within and around you actually cuts you off from your own heart and from living this world.

Some of you are like huh?

Well let me break it down for you beautiful souls this cold brisk morning. You see when it comes to life it’s always responding to us.

I know that’s a pretty hard concept to wrap your head around. But either your spending energy accepting your beautiful life the way it is, or your keeping yourself small by using words like I can’t and I won’t and I’ll never.

Words that have a negative energy with them will always bring you more negativity.

Words are more powerful then you can ever imagine and you’ve got to become aware of the words you speak.

I’ve seen a meme floating around and it says something like “if I attract what I’m afraid of then I’m afraid of a million dollars”

The ironic thing about this meme is that you are afraid of the money and you don’t think you deserve it, because if you did you would be producing different thoughts and feelings.

Subconsciously you don’t think your worthy of the money and so you keep yourself small, simply by producing more fears.

You are not in control of anything no matter how much time and energy you waste trying to be.

Life is responding to you and when you spend time manipulating situations instead of learning to present, you cut yourself off from your own heart every single time.

I know that learning to live in your heart is scary but I promise you it’s not half as scary as staying trapped up in that mind for the rest of your life.

Learn how to let go.

Learn how to use your energy to create an amazing life for yourself instead of repeating the unhealthy patterns over and over again.

The next time something’s happening that you don’t like instead of escaping into your head, try to see what’s going on in your body.

Don’t push the feelings away, and don’t try figure them out instead just accept them. Say to yourself “I feel anxiety in my belly, I wonder what this situation is trying to tell me”

Don’t act like you always do, instead pause and get in touch with yourself. All of the answers that you seek to life and yourself are locked away inside you.

You’ve spent your entire life avoiding your heart because at some point in your life it got hurt, but now it’s time to show up for you.

It’s time to learn a new way of living in the present moment.

You are worthy of an amazing life.

I don’t have anything special that you don’t have, I’ve just taken the time to love myself with my entire heart and you can too.

I hope you have an amazing week.

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

Peace God Bless Namaste

Be thankful for your freedoms, your choices and your privileges

Celebrating #internationaldayofthegirl

Be thankful for your freedoms, your choices and your privileges 🌟not everyone has choices like oursπŸ’•

Raise strong girls

We don’t confirm girls

We use our voice girls

Raise girls who take up space

Who laugh out loud

Who aren’t afraid to get dirty Girls

Raise bold girls

Stand up for other girls

Self love kind of girls

Raise brave girls

I’m not afraid girls

Get out of my face girls

Raise girls that break the mold girls

The kind the planet needs more of girls

Vulnerable and tough girls

Raise them different

So they might change the world girls

Written by Tavia Hayduk

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I don’t know who needs to hear this today, but you are NOT alone

Some people think that to be strong is to never feel pain. But in reality the strongest people are the ones who feel it, understand it, and accept it.

I don’t know who needs to hear this today, but you are not alone. Don’t you dare for one second believe those voices in your head. You are not those voices, and you don’t have to believe them.

Don’t you dare let your anxiety and your depression lie to you for one more minute. It wants you to believe that no one cares. It wants to own you but you don’t have to let it.

It wants to keep you small and make you think that your not strong enough to find your way out, but it’s all a lie.

I’ve been there friends!

I understand completely!

We are all the same on the inside. We are all humans and we have a complex operating system and the sooner you understand yourself the sooner you can end your own suffering.

I love you! Someone somewhere else loves you, even when you don’t feel like they do. If we believed all of the things we think we would all go insane.

You are so much more then you can even imagine. When you can learn to live awake you can create an entirely new life for yourself and it will be better then anything you’ve ever experienced before now.

Connection and compassion are the key to getting out of your funks. Actively participating in getting out of your head is the only way to do it.

You must go take action friends! Get up and move. Go talk to a friend. Don’t keep it all inside because that’s now how we’re supposed to live our lives.

Go for a walk. Listen to music. Take your shoes off and walk barefoot in the grass. Reconnect with your spirit and get out of your head.

Silence is a breeding ground for shame, but when you open up and you choose to let someone in, shame won’t be able to survive anymore.

There’s nothing in your past that you’ve done that you can’t forgive yourself for. You are amazing and worthy and a glorious hot mess all at the same time and it’s ok.

You are broken just like I am, but that’s perfectly normal because that my friends is where the light gets in.

Please take the time to have real conversations that matter and make a difference in your own life.

Know that you can be in an entirely different place a year from now if your committed to loving yourself differently.

While we humans tend to take care of lots our our needs, we often fail when it comes to our own emotions. But not because we can’t learn, simply because we’ve never been taught.

My hope by writing this blog is that you will share it with a friend that might need to hear it. Let them know that they are not alone and that you care. Let them know they are so much more then the thoughts in their heads.

May we continue to try to meet all of our needs as humans, and not ignore the feelings of true belonging that we all long for.

I love you πŸ’•

You are not alone

Your human and your amazing

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

Peace God Bless Namaste

Teach them how to stop giving their power away

Teach your kids resilience

Teach them that the world is not fair and not everyone is nice

But not everyone matters

Teach them how to let go of words that hurt them and how to be strong on the inside

Teach them how to stop giving their power away

Teach them self love

Some of you are going to absolutely hate this blog, while others of you will love the message that’s behind it.

I guess it just depends on the way you see the world and the way you view yourself.

If I know anything it’s about how to how to show up for yourself. I was a broken child so I see thing through the lens of a broken child.

I know what it feels like to feel alone, and to not feel good enough and to always feel like you just don’t belong somewhere. I know the struggles of every day life and I understand being poor and being afraid.

But what we need to do as parents is to instill emotional intelligence in our kids. However we first have to learn to heal our own hearts in order to help guide their souls to the light.

You can’t change the kids who are mean or the parents of those kids. So don’t waste any more energy on them at all. You can change yourself and your own children.

If they come home from school and they are upset by the events of the day, by all means listen to them. Acknowledge their feelings and their emotions and then help them get back on track.

Don’t allow them to become the victim of the mean kids. Don’t let their self worth and their identity be given away so easily.

Don’t teach them how to hold onto the pain by carrying it around with them, instead teach them how to be strong. Teach them to let go.

Teach them that sometimes there’s shitty people in the world, but those people have no power over you.

Their words have no power over you, unless you let them.

You decide who comes and goes in your life and you decide what opinions matter as well.

If you teach them to love themselves, truly love themselves, then the words of others will never be able to penetrate their hearts because they know who they are.

And they know what they stand for and they value themselves way more then any silly insults.

Fear perpetuates more fear, but love brings a whole new light to the earth.

This is the self love I’m speaking of. This is how we reclaim our power and we create a new generation of kind kids who don’t give their power away.

The next time your kid comes home hurt I beg you to pause and ask yourself if your perpetuating more victims or more warriors?

Everything they need is already inside them so teach them how to love it now so they won’t spend their lives searching for something outside of themselves.

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

If you want to dig more into how you can help create strong kids read the conscious parent by Dr. Shefali

If you want love, do not hide from yourself

If you want the moon do not hide from the night

If you want a rose do not run from the thorns

If you want love do not hide from yourself Rumi

As I was scrolling through my feed this morning my soul was touched by this beautiful quote.

I feel it in the depths of my soul as I continue to unfold and unravel my spirit. Getting out of your head and into your heart is a really hard thing to do at first, and even when you get better at it, there will still be times that you will find yourself right back in the middle of your head.

It’s ok dear ones, you are human! I do it all the time also, I am just able to get out of there faster then I used to be.

We are all in a trance living the stories we tell ourselves every single day. (Except for those that have already awakened) We then tend to identify with these stories and we believe the themes running through our heads.

We literally spend years being a slave to our negative feelings and emotions never understanding the peace and the love that lies on the other side when we choose to surrender.

We don’t realize that there’s something so much deeper inside of ourselves. We don’t take the time to understand ourselves because we’re afraid of what we might find.

Americans spend more time being busy then any other culture, and it’s left us with a bunch of unhealthy souls. What we all need more of is being still. Spending time with your kids and your family just being.

It’s easy to blame everyone else for the way we act. It’s easy to do the same things we’ve always done, but it’s not easy to become aware of your own bullshit.

If you want to live a life with your heart wide open then you have to take the time to understand yourself. If you want to love then you need to get really familiar with the pain that your carrying around with you.

The next thing you have to do is become familiar with your triggers. They are a huge clue to the unhealed hurt that’s floating around inside you.

Do you become angry when your triggered?

Do you become a people pleaser when your triggered and forget all about what you want so you can make someone else happy?

Do you run away when your triggered and then blame others when you can’t cope anymore?

Do you just sweep things under the rug when your triggered and pretend they aren’t happening?

These are just a few of the classic ways that we avoid ourselves by living in our pain.

I think we’ve all experienced some of these things at some point in our lifetime. But if you truly want to live awake and stop being a victim of your own emotions, then learn that all of the answers to everything lie inside you.

Understand that if you want something you’ve never had then you have to be committed to doing things that you’ve never done before.

And if your ok with where you are in your life that’s ok too.

Acceptance πŸ’œ

Peace God Bless Namaste

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

Little Sister I’m Proud Of You

Your going to piss a lot of people off when you finally start doing what’s best for you.

After years of making everyone else happy, I couldn’t be more proud of your decision to make yourself happy.

It’s not an easy thing to change the role you’ve been playing your entire life, but it sure is worth it.

It took me until I was 40 to try to get through my daddy issues but your kicking yours in the ass at 30 and I’m so proud of you.

Don’t worry about people understanding your side of the story because those of us that matter are all about you.

Don’t pick up their hateful words and their desperate comments and hold them close to your heart.

Instead pick up all of the good comments and all of the love you receive and hold onto them.

You’re doing this for you and you’re the only one that matters. The people who truly love you will see you to the other side of this glorious awakening and the ones that only care to manipulate and control will not longer be an issue.

I’ve been beside you your entire life and I’m not going anywhere. I know every single story that hurt you growing up and I also know the stories that haunt you as an adult.

You are no longer a little girl or a victim of your own life. You are an amazing warrior that’s reclaiming her voice and her spirit.

You won’t be passing on a co-dependent love to your kids because when you know better you do better.

I know it hurts but it won’t be this way forever.

You surround yourself with love and light only. Eventually they will get tired of bullying you and sending you absurd messages because they won’t be able to control you anymore.

I know it’s hard but you’ve got this beautiful girl. God didn’t make us this strong and feisty for no reason at all!

He made us sisters because he knew that we would do amazing things together.

I love you KK

Keep going

You are strong

You are kind

You are brave

You are bold

And you use your voice

πŸ’œ you

To the ones consumed by darkness….

I know that’s it really dark in your life right now. I too have experienced complete black outs.

I know there are parts of yourself that you struggle with, and that sometimes you are completely consumed by your own shadows.

I know what it’s like to reside in the places that make you afraid and keep you small. I also understand your pain and your grief and your need to heal.

We all have these dark places inside of us because we are all human. I truly understand what it feels like to hurt so badly that your numb to most everything that’s going on, but yet somehow you continue to keep going.

Some of us were born with darkness and some of us had the darkness put in us. Some of us have never experienced anything but the dark, and a few lucky souls have experienced minimal darkness in their lives.

But here’s what I have you tell you beautiful souls, there’s a light inside of you that can help you find your way out of the darkness.

There’s a unique voice that’s yours and only yours and it’s freaking special, and you know what else?

No one else in the entire world has the exact same light as you. And once you’ve consciously activated it there’s no going back to the dark.

When you finally make it through all of your accumulated hurts, you will be free of the very things you’ve spent your entire life afraid of.

You will be rewarded by showing up for yourself and for choosing to shine your light. Your life will be better then you could have ever imagined when you learn to create harmony on the inside.

There are going to be chapters in your life that suck and that are going to completely break you.

But here’s the good thing about being broken, it’s actually where the light gets in. It’s where you find your strength and your heart and your self love.

You are so very close to your breakthrough so don’t you dare quit on yourself now.

I love you πŸ’œ

Peace God Bless NamasteTay πŸ§˜β€β™€οΈ