Becoming The Oracle

Good Morning Dear Ones 🌞

I hope this blog finds you well wherever you are in the world. This morning I felt spirit leading me to write to you about my adventures into faith, so here we go.

Some of you know and some of you don’t know, but in 2019 I received a message from spirit. It was in the middle of all the nonsense. I heard a voice I swore was God and it simply said “Do not conform” and that’s it. No directions or guidance or information to follow it up. Just a warning if you will. I could have pretended it didn’t happen, and I could have kept going on with my regular life, but I didn’t.

I very specifically asked “Is that it?” “No more information?” “No guidance for where we’re headed?” “Just don’t conform?” This wasn’t a one time conversation I had with spirit. And they never answered any of my Questions no matter how loud I got, or how much I cussed. Just silence on their part. I asked those questions over and over again. Sometimes feeling so very confused, while other times feeling empowered and lucky. I’ve always been different, I’ve never fit in and I don’t want to fit into you earth club. Now I know why I was different! Now I fucking finally understand some of my life’s plan.

Fast forward to today. It’s now September of 2022 and I’m still receiving messages from above. I’ve also been able to communicate with a couple of dead people that I never knew in real life. I receive a lot more downloads and messages from spirit then I ever have in my entire life.

The ability to see through others lies is a gift from God himself, and not everyone possesses these qualities. If you have discernment then you damn well better use it, or you will lose it.

If I could give you a really brief summary of all the lies that you’ve been told it would sound a little something like this.

The world has been invaded by bad guys for over 100 years. When I say bad I mean non-human. I don’t mean black or white or democrat, or republic, or gay or straight. Those are the silly things they side tracked you with, to distract you from the agenda. No dear ones there are non human, humans all around you. Demons take on human vessels in this world so they can do their work here. Clones exist, evil is all around you, all things on TV are pretend and are there to keep you asleep.

This group exists all over the world and every single country has been infected by their greed. While I won’t be getting into all of that in this blog, I will explain more in another one.

I think the first message was a test of sorts, to see if I would listen to evil or spirit. And when I choose the ones I can’t see over the lies I could see through, I was again rewarded.

Many of you are gifted in the spiritual realm but you are afraid of what others might think of your unique gifts. But I’m here to coax you out of the shadows and into the light. We need your gifts now more then ever, even if you don’t think you can help.

We are entering a new earth and the conscious ones will be ushering in the newly awakened souls. There’s nothing to be afraid of if your souls pure and your hearts open.

Allow yourselves to be a vessel for the human healing that’s occurring on our planet. Hang out with friends who are on the same souls journey and remember that you are different for a reason.

None of this has been easy for me, but I know who I am, and I know who I serve. Do you?

❤️Tavia

Healing The Empath

Good Morning Dear Ones 🧚‍♂️

I know I’ve not been writing much and trust me when I tell you I miss my blog like crazy. But I’ve been over here healing my shit for the last couple of years and if you read the blog before this one then you already know.

But today I’m here and I’m ready to share with you a little bit about my healing journey, and how I turned my empathy into a superpower.

The unhealed empath is a magnet for narcissists. They come in all fucking forms! Spouses, family members, friends, co-workers, and straight up haters. You see when you have a light that’s so amazingly bright your going to attract a lot of broken people, because they are like a moth to a flame. They see your light, and they wonder how you got it and where it comes from, and they want some of it.

I didn’t use to understand this at all, but after taking the time to study myself, and empathy I’ve been able to create boundaries and to remove all of the toxic relationships from my life.

My entire life people have told me I’m different then anyone they know. I realize now it’s my aura, my energy and it introduces me before I introduce myself. your aura extends 2 of your own arm lengths wide and I have really long arms lol! And also my entire life I’ve always done more for my friends then they ever thought of doing for me. It took my sister reminding me of this to even see it for myself, and I thank her for that. It’s not cool to be the better friend, you want to have people in your life that treat you how you treat them. Not energy vampires that suck the life out of you because they have no light.

Somethings happens when your a child and you go one of 2 ways. You either become an empath who takes care of everyone else, but never yourself. Or you become a narcissist because you were hurt so bad, you decided that you were never going to feel again. So you become a master manipulator with the ability to shapeshift into those that you are around. But the narcissist never has any sense of self. Underneath all of the masks, and the pretend nice guys and girls, is a little kid who hates themselves.

There’s a complete imbalance in the both of them. The empath never chooses herself, she’s co-dependent AF, and she doesn’t know how to feel her own shit because she’s to busy making sure everyone else is ok.

She never puts herself first because she doesn’t think she’s important enough. She’s always taking care of everyone else and making them feel better. And I know because this was me, my entire life until I learned how important I am. It took so much trauma and drama over the last 5 years for me to be where I am today.

When my best friend died from cancer I couldn’t even process it. I was busy taking care of everyone else and trying my best to be there for her. It’s only been in the last year that I feel as though I’ve finally come to grips with it all.

Empaths grow up in messed up homes and will have to overcome so much pain during their lives. Each situation bringing them one step closer to their hearts.

If you decide to heal your going to lose all the narcissistic people in your life. They only like you when they can manipulate and control you. They only like you when you make them feel important and when you tell them they hurt you they are not going to respond kindly. I’ve been ghosted, I’m getting a divorce, and I lost so many people that I thought loved me. When in all reality they don’t have the capacity to love. They can pretend, they can lie, cheat, manipulate, shame and blame with the best of them, but they don’t understand what love is.

I choose healing over remaining the same., but only when the internal pain of staying the same became to much to bear. I had to become the butterfly and go through my metamorphosis, in complete darkness by myself.

I became a spiritual hermit so I could learn once and for all to use my words no matter what. I never realized how unbalanced all of my relationships were and now it’s not like that anymore.

Yes it’s lonely in the beginning, but it’s was more lonely to be surrounded my fake ass people then it is to be alone.

Speak your truth and take time to heal your heart. Learn to watch what everyone does and don’t listen to a word they say. Actions always speak louder then words.

Understand that you will be hurt over and over again until you understand your worth. Then my loves shits about to get real!

I miss you dearly

❤️Tavia

September & Nothings Changed

Good Morning Dear Ones 🤍

I’ve been going through the longest break up of my entire life. Not one thing has gone the way they said it would go. I’ve never in my entire life felt so trapped and unable to move on, and at the same time I fully understand I’m doing this shit, no matter how long it takes.

It’s my daughters senior year and I wanted to create a healthy environment, with lots of love inside the walls of our home. Therefore I had to remove anyone and anything that stopped the flow of love. I started trying to leave him in January and it’s now September and he still lives here.

It’s by far the most awkward and weird situation I’ve ever had to live through. It’s bazaar and I’m often confused by what’s going on because his actions and his words never match.

He said we could agree to split everything and go our separate ways, but as you can see we’re still here. I eventually realized what I was going to have to do to leave this entanglement and I filed for Divorce.

Our lawyers could make a deal yesterday, because that’s what they do. That’s why you pay them, but when someone thinks you deserve nothing it’s going to last forever.

I needed to speak of some of this nonsense today, so next year when I look back at this time I can remember how far I’ve come.

Our first court date isn’t even until the middle of October, so we will be here together until then. I really wanted to work with him and be his friend and make Peyton’s senior year amazing in all the ways.

But after all the lies, all the deceit, all the stalking and the lack of boundaries, there’s no way we can be friends. I don’t hang out with people who treat me like shit and I’m not nice to those who have hidden agendas and intentions. I don’t trust liars and people who have zero capacity to accept responsibility for their secrets.

Living with someone you have blocked on all social media is a new kind of emotional intelligence or torture, I’m not sure which.

I have learned to heal my shit during this entire process and it’s fucking beautiful. While I have so many more details and stories to share with you, those will be coming out in my book. I’ve literally been through hell and back since 2020 and most of it was inside my own home.

For now understand that living in a war zone means it’s almost impossible to start the healing process. But nonetheless I will come out a warrior instead of a victim. One day it will end with a division of the marital assets and a divorce. What a gift we could give our daughter to agree and move on.

I will have love in this house one day and no grouchy old men! In the meantime send me some love, and know that you are not alone.

The divine feminine is rising and she brings with her a whole new level of love and light. She makes no apologies for loving with whole heart and understands the future that she will be blessed with.

❤️Tavia

Our First Airbnb Was lovely

Good Morning Dear Ones 🤍

We just got back from my Little brothers wedding in Michigan, and we had our first stay at an Airbnb. Our place was in Interlochen, and if you ever find yourself in the vicinity be sure to stay here.

We picked a super host, and she did not disappoint. The back yard was so cute I didn’t even ever want to leave. It was pure bliss out there in the woods, listening to all of nature around us.

It was my first get away of the year because I’m trying to grow a new business and get a divorce at the same time and it’s a lot. But I’m doing it, and nothing can stop me now.

The hammocks were a favorite for everyone to chill in and read a good book. My daughter and granddaughter especially liked them when they wanted to be alone or unwind.

The yogi in me had to bust out a tree pose on a tree, and Tatum was excited to join me. There were so many little details that I loved that many others might not have even noticed.

I loved finding tinker bell, and all of the magic that comes with her.

The swings under the porch were adorable and we took a swing in between guests.

I adored the magic that was sprinkled throughout the entire grounds. It’s the little things that make my heart full and every time I found another treasure I smiled bigger. I’m a simple girl with a huge heart and it doesn’t take much to make me smile.

A little different perspective for you! I could have stayed out here all day, but we were way to busy for that.

So instead I took pictures and I’ll write about it so I can always remember. It was the first time I got to take Tatum on vacation and it was very special in all the ways.

In the morning the most magical light comes through the front door and you are able to witness it’s beauty. I was mesmerized by this one morning and I just happened to be there at the right time to witness it.

Libby was our host and she checked in on us many times during our stay, which made me feel cared for and never alone on our girls trip.

❤️Tavia

I am so thankful that we were able to do this and I’m blessed by Libby and her magical cottage.

I decided to spend all that love I give away on myself and here’s what happened

Dear Ones I’ve missed writing and I miss you. I’ve been changing my life over here for the last 2 and 1/2 years and it’s not been easy. However it’s been enlightening and it’s also been eye opening.

You see when you grow up like I did without much love, you learn things all wrong. I didn’t even know what love was because I’ve never really seen it between 2 people. I’ve seen control, desperation, manipulation, co-dependency, shaming, blaming, and a shit ton of screaming and yelling and crying without anything every actually being fixed. I’ve seen people live together without any real intimacy or teamwork or oneness. I’ve seen a shit ton of adults in miserable relationships that stay because they don’t know any better and they call it love.

I myself am guilty of staying in many one sided half assed relationships for too long. I thought I had the best friends, best family, and the best life until I started doing one thing, and then it all came crashing down.

But I’d do it all over again. You see, as it turns out I always gave more then others were willing to give. My relationships were unbalanced and it was my fault that it was happening. I often felt like I was being taken advantage of, but because I’m an empath I just thought that’s how it was always going to be. But then I learned about boundaries and I read a lot of books and I updated all of my blueprints. All of my unconscious ways of thinking, became conscious ways of being.

And as I decided to chose myself instead of everyone else I began to see people with a new set of lenses. Instead of only seeing the good and making excuses for their behaviors I just stepped back and I watched. Words of affirmation used to be my love language until the people I trusted the most used their words to hurt me or to lie to me. I just shut up and watched everyone. If their actions and words didn’t match they had to go.

I am co-dependent no more, and I am teaching kids and adults how to choose themselves first. I am going to be teaching more and more on this topic because it’s so misunderstood and harmful to ourselves.

Simply put anytime you do not say what you need or what you want, because you think your responsible for someone else’s feelings your being co-dependent.

If you walk in your house and you see your partners in a bad mood, so you suppress your feelings to deal with their feelings it’s co-dependent.

If your mom is in a bad mood or has a headache and she yells at you, it’s not your fault. She’s 100% responsible for her own feelings, moods and reactions.

If you cannot express your truest self and all of your feelings then those are not your people. I quit saying what I thought I should say and I started telling the truth.

If I can’t have a real conversation with you then I don’t need you in my life. Real and fake cannot exist together in the same space. They are polar opposites and those who have much to hide about themselves don’t like Authenticity. The light often shines right into their deepest darkest corners and they don’t want that.

If I have to filter my highest self or my lowest self in any with with you, then we will not be together anymore. I am not responsible for your feelings, thoughts, actions or behaviors. I stopped trying to fix everyone and I fixed my fucking self. I’ve done the work and while no one in my family gets it, my new friends certainly do. Because they are on the same self love healing journey.

Yes! It’s been really lonely at times and fucking heart wrenching, I’d do it all over again. Because for the first time in my entire life, I can be me. No pretending, no avoiding, no alcohol, no filter, no judgment, no apologies, and no one trying to control me.

And here’s the best part. I have friends who are loyal to me for the first time ever. They have my back instead of talking behind my back. They tell me who and what is going on instead of being one of the ones who confuse the hell out of me. They have boundaries and I’m never confused as to where we stand. I’ve created a space where people can come and be themselves, and I’ve only been able to do that by being myself. We tell the truth even if it hurts.

I don’t do anything anymore because I feel sorry for you! I can’t put you first because I’m important and I matter. That’s a big fat no no! I spent too many years doing shit for people that would never do that stuff for me. And that’s all part of the lesson though.

When you love you it’s all going to change. Your going to have a dark night of the soul where you lose it all. But if you walk through the darkness of your own shadows you will find your light on the other side.

The worlds a shifting and not everyone is healing. But I’m here for those who want to walk through fire and become the Divine Beings they were sent here to be.

❤️Tavia

I decided to spend all that love I give away on myself and here’s what happened

Dear Ones I’ve missed writing and I miss you. I’ve been changing my life over here for the last 2 and 1/2 years and it’s not been easy. However it’s been enlightening and it’s also been eye opening.

You see when you grow up like I did without much love, you learn things all wrong. I didn’t even know what love was because I’ve never really seen it between 2 people. I’ve seen control, desperation, manipulation, co-dependency, shaming, blaming, and a shit ton of screaming and yelling and crying without anything every actually being fixed. I’ve seen people live together without any real intimacy or teamwork or oneness. I’ve seen a shit ton of adults in miserable relationships that stay because they don’t know any better and they call it love.

I myself am guilty of staying in many one sided half assed relationships for too long. I thought I had the best friends, best family, and the best life until I started doing one thing, and then it all came crashing down.

But I’d do it all over again. You see, as it turns out I always gave more then others were willing to give. My relationships were unbalanced and it was my fault that it was happening. I often felt like I was being taken advantage of, but because I’m an empath I just thought that’s how it was always going to be. But then I learned about boundaries and I read a lot of books and I updated all of my blueprints. All of my unconscious ways of thinking, became conscious ways of being.

And as I decided to chose myself instead of everyone else I began to see people with a new set of lenses. Instead of only seeing the good and making excuses for their behaviors I just stepped back and I watched. Words of affirmation used to be my love language until the people I trusted the most used their words to hurt me or to lie to me. I just shut up and watched everyone. If their actions and words didn’t match they had to go.

I am co-dependent no more, and I am teaching kids and adults how to choose themselves first. I am going to be teaching more and more on this topic because it’s so misunderstood and harmful to ourselves.

Simply put, anytime you do not say what you need or what you want, because you think your responsible for someone else’s feelings your being co-dependent.

If you walk in your house and you see your partners in a bad mood, so you suppress your feelings to deal with their feelings it’s co-dependent.

If your mom is in a bad mood or has a headache and she yells at you, it’s not your fault. She’s 100% responsible for her own feelings, moods and reactions.

If you cannot express your truest self and all of your feelings then those are not your people. I quit saying what I thought I should say and I started telling the truth.

If I can’t have a real conversation with you then I don’t need you in my life. Real and fake cannot exist together in the same space. They are polar opposites and those who have much to hide about themselves don’t like Authenticity. The light often shines right into their deepest darkest corners and they don’t want that.

If I have to filter my highest self or my lowest self in any with with you, then we will not be together anymore. I am not responsible for your feelings, thoughts, actions or behaviors. I stopped trying to fix everyone and I fixed my fucking self. I’ve done the work and while no one in my family gets it, my new friends certainly do. Because they are on the same self love healing journey.

Yes! It’s been really lonely at times and fucking heart wrenching, I’d do it all over again. Because for the first time in my entire life, I can be me. No pretending, no avoiding, no alcohol, no filter, no judgment, no apologies, and no one trying to control me.

And here’s the best part. I have friends who are loyal to me for the first time ever. They have my back instead of talking behind my back. They tell me who and what is going on instead of being one of the ones who confuse the hell out of me. They have boundaries and I’m never confused as to where we stand. I’ve created a space where people can come and be themselves, and I’ve only been able to do that by being myself. We tell the truth even if it hurts.

I don’t do anything anymore because I feel sorry for you! I can’t put you first because I’m important and I matter. That’s a big fat no no! I spent too many years doing shit for people that would never do that stuff for me. And that’s all part of the lesson though.

When you love you it’s all going to change. Your going to have a dark night of the soul where you lose it all. But if you walk through the darkness of your own shadows you will find your light on the other side.

The worlds a shifting and not everyone is healing. But I’m here for those who want to walk through fire and become the Divine Beings they were sent here to be.

❤️Tavia

What Happens When You Trust Spirit & NOT Humans

Some of you don’t know me very well or much about my yoga journey, but this is how and when I jumped all in ❤️

It’s been scary and fun and crazy and amazing ❤️ growing a new business in the middle of the shitstorm!

I’ve been ridiculed, talked about, and made fun of (even in my own house) and if you were wondering I would do it all over again

Faith has brought me here
Hard work and authenticity will take me the rest of the way

And every single no
Every smack in the face
Every hurts that was brought to the surface
Did not stop me from doing what I was born to do 💡

Alchemy 🧘‍♀️
I’m a transmuter you see.

I help turn pain into love and it’s quite a beautiful process. I’m a mystic, an Oracle, a truth teller, a psychic, if you will. But only because I passed the test and I can be trusted with the next assignment.

What a ride this has been since I decided to to say no to the Government

Imagine where we would be if everyone said no

I was given this life because I’m strong enough to live it

No wonder I’ve been so full
Of emotions and feelings lately

Everyone thought I was nuts for doing this and no one understood why ❤️

I’m guessing some of you still don’t see where we’re headed, and maybe your lucky to be in the dark????

It marks the beginning of an end and the end of a beginning

But also the infinite circle of healing my own heart

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The Chakras

No more good morning as I learned it means mourning. Good Day Divine Humans, I miss you in the blogging world, but I’m over here sharing my light with the souls who need illuminated.

As you learn about yourself the chakras play such an important part in your healing and in your balancing of the self 🧘‍♀️

Today we’re discussing the blockages that occur in the body and what causes them and perhaps a few side effects.

There’s so much information on the chakras that I’m going to be creating an online workshop for those who want to learn more.

The root chakra ❤️ is blocked by fear.
It comes from an unbalanced and unsafe child hood and it could cause you to have a hemorrhoid.

The Sacral Chakra 🧡 is blocked by guilt.
It comes from feeling like your always on fight or flight mode AKA survival mode.
It could cause anxiety and depression

The Solar Plexus Chakra 💛 is blocked by shame.
It can be caused by allowing the brain to do all of the thinking.
You could struggle with self love and laziness.

The Heart Chakra 💚 is blocked by grief.
When the heart is caged it causes many issues inside and out all stemming from your childhood.
It can cause you to not be able to forgive, to think critically of yourself and others, and it could also create issues in giving and receiving.

The Throat Chakra 💙 is blocked by dishonesty.
It’s caused by a plethora of physical, emotional,and spiritual issues.
It can cause your throat to be full of nonsense and you will be trying to clear it all of the time with no success. The lies are eating you from the inside out. You may also find yourself being overly critical and judgmental of others and you gossip a lot.

The Third Eye Chakra 💜 Is blocked by illusions.
We’re unable to see the blind spots or maybe unwilling.
You feel disconnected from everything and everyone, yourself included. Can’t sleep correctly and might have a sensitivity to light.

Crown Chakra 💟 Is Blocked by ego.
You will feel greedy, the need to dominate and lots of depression.

Blocked is just another word for unbalanced.

Next week we will take a look at the chakras that could be to open instead of closed.

Yoga will help you balance your body and your mood.

❤️Tavia

10 signs your breaking up with a narcissist

If you’ve ever had to go through a break up I understand the pain the comes with a broken heart. If you’ve ever had to break up with a narcissist this is going to sting a whole hell of a lot. But I promise you will survive it and one day you will look back and wonder how the hell you ever did it.

Here are 10 signs that your not going through the normal break up. Although I’m guessing you’ve already realized this isn’t quite your average split, you also find yourself completely lost at times because they will have you super confused before it’s all over with.

1. When you try to break up with the narc he doesn’t allow it. He literally love bombs you and tells you all the reasons why he loves you. You could say “I don’t think this is working out and you need a girl that’s more like you.” He will say “I don’t want anyone else but you. I love you.” This is quite confusing and will happen over and over again until your finally strong enough to just leave. He will not make it easy on you, but I’m guessing your life has never been easy.

2. The narcissist has 2 sides always. One side is the side he shows the world, and the other side is the side that he shows you inside the walls of your own home. This one is tricky because they care more about what other people think then their actual character. They always pretend to be “nice” but that’s simply because they have no sense of self so they become whatever was expected of them as a child.

3. The narcissist controls everything. They have all the money and you will have zero access to any unless you ask for it or get pre-approved for a purchase. They seek to control all aspects of their lives and your life. And you won’t even understand until it’s to late. You will believe that they are saving for your future when in fact they are only worried about themselves. You will believe the stories they tell you because they are so convincing.

4. Their actions and their words never match. And if you’ve been with them for a really long time your going to have a hard time with this one. Naturally you will want to believe their words because they are so convincing. But you will have to pay close attention to all actions and leave the words behind. Words are full of nonsense when actions lead to the light.

5. They have many addictions, afflictions, personality disorders and secrets. This ties back into number one where they are controlling. The narcissist has to manipulate and deceive in order to feel good about themselves. They will never admit to anything unless they are caught, and even then some will still deny all of the evidence you’ve already seen with your own eyes. (See more in number 7 it’s all connected)

6. They shame and blame you for everything. It’s always your fault no matter what’s going on. They take zero accountability for any of their actions, words, behaviors, and addictions. You are the reason they stay. You are the reason they can’t go. You are the reason they are unhappy. You are the reason for all of their mistakes and you are the cause of all of their afflictions. You make them act the way they act. You make them drink, you make them crazy, you make them do ALL the things.

7. Gaslighting is their favorite manipulation technique by far. If you say “you hurt my feelings and we need to talk” they will turn it around so fast you won’t even know what happened. You will end up feeling bad for trying to share your heart because they simply don’t have the emotional capacity to hold space for your feelings.

8. They love small talk and gossip. They have zero sense of feelings and real empathy so they cannot have conversations about themselves. You can spot many narcissists this way, be it another family member or a friend. Listen to what they talk about, and who they talk about and why they talk about them. If they gossip about others they gossip about you.

9. They will try to have sex with you in the middle of the break up. Better be careful Ladies if they are still living together, and your adoring him. They will do anything they can to make things go back to the way it was. This one might confuse because how could someone who hates you so much want to hook up with you??? Don’t worry it’s not about you and it’s never been about you.

10. They will repeat history. They will do everything on autopilot the exact same way they did it before. They will engage with the same females as the last time. They will pretend to change their behavior for a hot minute and end up right back where they started. They are in fact on autopilot and live their lives completely unconscious and asleep.

Now that we got all of that out of the way if you found your relationship any where in this blog you are NOT alone. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are sooooooo lovable, you just were with someone who doesn’t have the capacity to love. They can think, and control, and manipulate. They can demand and Shame and blame and throw a fit like a 2 year old child. But sis they don’t have an emotional side. They don’t want to love and to be vulnerable, that takes way to much work.

So stop worrying about him or her at all. It’s time to focus on you and only you. It’s time to spoil yourself with orgasms and meditation, with baths and best friends. With new loves and lots of excitement and most of all letting go of the old and ushering in the new. Magic awaits you for loving someone who never loved you.

You asked for this life so you could learn what love was. You manifested this relationship so you could walk away from it and teach others what self love looks like.

You had to be with someone in such a toxic space and environment in order to learn what the fuck you deserve. And now my dear you are free from all expectations about how your life should be, and you can manifest a whole man instead of an unhealed little boy.

I love you ❤️ I believe in you❤️ and remember this is only one chapter And you decide how the story ends.

❤️Tavia

New beginnings require depth over distance

Good Morning Dear Ones 🤍

I’ve been a little bit quiet on the blog lately but I’m often perplexed just watching the world and the humans that take up space on Earth.

We’ve had some of the most beautiful skies in the last couple of days that I knew it was a reminder of all the good that’s still to come.

I haven’t written much about my break up because it’s been kind of messed up over here. Everything I thought would happen has not happened and after months of absolutely no forward progress on my ex’s part I had to find the money to file for divorce.

He said so many things for so many months and never once took the action to match his words. I tried to give him the sweetest deal around (I wanted zero 401k and zero stocks)I did want alimony because I just wanted out, but of course he said no. He actually said “I’m not going to make this easy on you” No Shit Sherlock . I want my new life to begin and I want to rebuild what he’s destroyed inside the walls of this home. Actual walls yes! They are missing in our dining room and they have been for well over a year and a half.

And while the half assed projects are annoying they don’t begin to annoy me as much as living with a liar. In January I tried to tell him it was over and he wouldn’t listen. February was the exact same situation. By the time March got here and it was spring break, he had to deal with my choices because I wasn’t going to Florida with him.

We sat down together and told our daughter that things weren’t working out. He said he would move out and we could keep the house and we would try to be friends and create a healthy space for her to finish her senior year.

Fast forward to the end of July and we’re all still here doing the things we’ve always done. He just got back from his 5th vacation this year but you know he’s doing it for me. Ha ha ha!

I will be talking about this more and more because it’s time to tell the truth finally. It’s time to reclaim my freedom and my love and to help the ladies who might need a little extra love. They say one doesn’t really get to break up with an unhealthy partner they more have to escape and I’ve been doing just that. Abuse doesn’t just occur with hands, but with words and neglect, and control.

If your going through a break up, Don’t waste to much time worrying about the other persons because this is your time sis. It’s time to show your daughter and your granddaughter what love looks like and how a women should be adored. If you don’t love you then you will always be licking the bottom of someone else’s shoe for attention. Don’t do it.

I love my bravery, and I love myself so very much for the first time in my entire life. I love that I walked away from a career and said no to money. I love that I was brave enough to start a new yoga business and to do things my way. I love that I’m about to embark on the biggest and boldest adventures of my life yet, and that I was strong enough to do it while being shamed inside my own home.

The most ironic thing about it all is that even after all the delays and stubborn actions on his part it will all end the same. With me being free and the court diving our equitable assets. In the meantime I’ll keep doing my thang, and helping others find their hearts.

I love you 🤍

Tavia