Guess who gets to spend a month with her bestie?

My best friends coming to town for an entire month!?!?! Can you say hallelujah?!?

This girls been a part of my life for the last 23 years and we’ve got lots of crazy memories together.

You know that I don’t believe in coincidences, so it’s meant to be that she’s here right now and going to be here for some of the craziest parts of my life.

I am so thankful that we’ve remained friends over the years and I can’t wait to see where the month takes us.

She has a new baby I can’t wait to squeeze and love on.

Some people in our lives are only supposed to be chapters, while others are a part of our entire book.

Learning the difference between the 2 gets a whole lot easier as you get older. And if I could help you change one thing I would teach you about letting go.

Don’t hold onto things that are meant to be let go of. Don’t bother with people who don’t make you feel good.

As soon as it’s not fun with the new guy say good bye and thank you next. Don’t try to change him and don’t try to convince him of how amazing you are.

Say if your not into me, I’m not into you.

The people that are your people will love you exactly the way you are. They won’t ever want you to change and they will help you shine your light brighter then ever.

She’s my people

She’s been my people since the day I met her

And she will always be my people

(And not only because she know all of my secrets)

Here’s to a month full of new memories made with people I love.

Here’s to a new month of new relationships and lots of laughter.

Thanks for reading my blog please connect with me on social media so I can get to know you better

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

Namaste

God bless

Peace Friends

To the girl that’s learning to use her voice again

I’m so proud of you for using your voice and speaking your truth. There’s not a more vulnerable thing in this entire world that you could do. I know how hard it is to speak when your afraid or unsure, but you’ve got to start doing it.

I know for years you’ve done things one way and now your trying to do things differently. Your reclaiming your authentic voice which was lost during your child hood and I’m so excited for you to learn how to use it.

When you don’t speak up you lose parts of yourself to other people. You literally give away your power to keep the peace or to make them happy, but that’s not the right thing to do.

That’s unhealthy as hell and you’ve got to change it starting today.

We are creating a new generation of women. Girls that use their voices even when they shake.

Girls that know that you can be afraid and brave at the exact same time. Girls who are not people pleasers and not bitches either.

Girls who are vulnerable and badass at the same time. Strong, faithful, confident women.

If we want to change the world girls we can’t be like the world. We have to bring a new balance and energy forth being women today. We have to learn to how to have the hard conversations, and how to speak up even we’re afraid.

The next time you find yourself pushing your own feelings aside to make someone else happy I hope you remember this blog.

I hope that you can muster the courage to speak your truth and to do it wholeheartedly because your so worth it.

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

Learning to bypass your own judgments and bullshit

I’m fairly new to the dating scene and after 20 years with the same guy it seems I’ve got a shit ton to learn. (It’s a good thing I’m a personal development and spirit junkie)

Clearly being single brings about a whole new set of joys and dramas. I remember thinking I would never want to go through the dating process again, but I was just lying to myself. (This shits exciting)

There’s so many fun things about being single again. There are a million new feelings I get to feel every single week and it’s been fucking forever ever since I’ve felt some of these emotions.

There are times I’m completely flattered by the things men say to me and then there are other times when I’m like no you did not say that or send that! (But this does make me laugh)

Here’s the biggest difference I’ve made when it comes to my mindset and men.

Instead of saying nope he’s not my type, he’s not my type, and he’s not my type, I’ve decided to create a new type.

Clearly looks aren’t enough at this point in my life. I’m learning how to talk to other guys that I probably wouldn’t even normally notice.

And not because they aren’t nice and cute, just because I was so judgmental.

I had to say no way to a 22 year old as flattered as I was, and yes even Though I thought he was super cute that’s just to young for Tay Tay.

My maiden name was Robinson but I’m not that Mrs. Robinson.

When you can learn to love yourself then you can attract a new kind of guy into your life. (This does not mean you won’t still attract selfish arrogant assholes because you will) But the difference is that you will be able to read through their bullshit a whole faster and you won’t waste a bunch of time and energy on them.

My favorite tag line right is for sure “Thank You Next”

When you learn to love yourself then you learn to be yourself. There’s not a better feeling in this entire world then being comfortable in your own skin.

Someone will love you exactly the way you are. They will love every single bit of you even the broken parts. They won’t want you to change a thing and when you do grow it will because you guys are growing together.

Date the farmer you wouldn’t normally even look at.

Give the younger guy a chance because he’s sweet.

Date the bald guy that you would normally ignore.

Give the guy With a beard a chance.

Get to know they guy with the big truck even though he’s not your type.

Date younger date older.

Open your eyes and pay attention.

You never know where your next best friend might come from but you’ve got to be willing to get past yourself to create something new.

“Finally realizing I was never asking for too much I was just asking the wrong person”

I had the courage to let go and start over

I don’t want a boyfriend I want lots of friends πŸ’œ

I’m going to have the best spring and summer of my entire life!

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

Your the best for reading my blog I appreciate you

Peace God Bless Namaste

To the girl that’s trying to change her life

To the girl that’s trying to change her life, I see you and your not alone.

Girlfriend there are going to be good days and bad days along this journey, but I want you to focus on today.

Forget what happened last week or yesterday forget what you said wrong or did wrong and start focusing on all the shit that your doing right.

Someone pushes your buttons and you act a fool but you’ve gone 3 weeks without any negativity with that person then who cares about the second you lost it.

Don’t you dare give away the victory in the 3 week hustle for the one second where you flipped your lid.

You are strong and brave and bold and capable and your strong as fuck for changing your life.

Look at how many people live a miserable unhappy life just because they fear change.

But not you!

You my sweet girl are jumping in with both feet and taking your life to a new level so don’t beat yourself up.

You’ve got more courage then most people I know and it doesn’t matter what anyone else in the entire world thinks. What matters is that you are a badass warrior of light and love.

I promise you the more you focus on the things your doing right the less negative self talk you will have in your head.

The more positive people you will attract into your life. But only because you were brave enough to let go.

To the girl who’s brave enough to change her life you are about to be rewarded beyond your wildest dreams but your going to have to embrace the storms to get to the sunshine β˜€οΈ

Keep your eyes open for the blessings along the way because every single day there will be a new one.

Be open to meeting new people and trying new things especially with people that aren’t like you!

Get the hell out of your norm and learn to have fun again because life’s way to short to be anything but happy.

I’m proud of you and so are many others. Keep your heart open so that it can receive the love that your truly deserve.

May your Saturday be filled with lots of laughter and love πŸ’œ

Thanks for reading my blog beautiful souls

Peace God Bless Namaste

Break the chains and fly away forever free to be your authentic self πŸ’œ

Starting over means new adventures

I’ve always wanted to go see Justin Timberlake in concert, he is my secret boyfriend after all.

I even went a few years back and tried to get tickets but those bitches were sold out as soon as they went on sale.

I was defeated when this happened because I had it all planned out and then we couldn’t even get tickets. I seriously went into a depression after that for a little bit and it took me a while to recover but here I am.

Ha ha ha

Ok maybe that’s a little dramatic but I was disappointed and it did hurt my heart a little.

Fast forward to 2019, and while taking my daughter to school we hear that that Mr. Sexy pants is going to be back in Ohio.

She’s like mom you should totally go to that concert while dad and I are gone in Florida.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

At first I’m like ignoring her, and then I’m like wait a minute, your right I do need to do this.

And so on Sunday night we went to see this little hottie, and he did not disappoint.

I can’t tell you how many years I put myself on hold just so I could support my husband and his dreams, his career, his education and all of his endeavors.

I’m not the least bit bitter about this because that’s what women do. They sacrifice their own lives to raise a family and to keep everyone happy.

Women have a shit ton more work on the emotional side of caring for others needs and keeping things running smoothly for their entire families.

In general women have been taught that their dreams are not as important as the man’s. They’ve inherited generations of dysfunction from their grandmothers, their mothers, and the aunts that came before them, and when they get married they get the pleasure of inheriting yet another set of unrealistic expectations from someone else’s family.

But sometimes women wake up and they say no this isn’t going to work for my family and I.

I’m not ok with mediocre love and I’m sure as hell not ok with settling when I only get this one miraculous chance at living.

When you know better you do better. Now I’m beyond blessed even in the middle of the mess because I’m teaching my daughter what self love looks like.

I’m letting her know that she can’t pour from an empty cup and that we aren’t here to make anyone else happy.

Happiness is an inside job and everyone’s responsible for their own happy.

Theres a new generation of women on the rise. It doesn’t matter what their age is because this isn’t based on numbers. Instead these ladies speak truth to bullshit but do it eloquently at all ages.

These ladies know that guilt is a wasted energy and they don’t fuck around with it ever.

These women aren’t jealous and insecure and they never ever talk bad about their friends. They build each other up.

They don’t make themselves small to make other people happy because they know that being different is their gift.

These ladies are wholehearted and your negative opinions don’t hold a card to the bright lights that they choose to shine even during the darkest of times.

We are strong

We are brave

We are light seekers

And

We are truth tellers

We never put ourselves last

We have boundaries like a mother fucker

And we never apologize for being ourselves

I couldn’t be more excited for my new life, the one where I learn as much from her as she does from me.

WholeHeartedVibeTribe

Love you all

I’m still plugging away at my book and I’m still toothless at my moms but stay tuned for new updates πŸ’œ

Thanks for reading my blog and supporting my dreams

Peace God Bless

Namaste

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

#confidencecoach

An open letter to my fucking fabulous tribe πŸ§˜β€β™€οΈ

Dear friends,

I know I’ve not been myself lately, but the truth of the matter is that I don’t really want to be that old girl anyways.

But the parts of me that you love and adore are still inside of me I promise. I know there are times when your proud of me and there are other times when your worried about me and I just wanted to say thank you.

Thanks showing up for me!

I’m 100% confident when I say I wouldn’t be able to be who I am without all of you.

I’ve never gotten a divorce before and I’ve sure as hell not been toothless as an adult. It’s my first time living in my moms house as a grown ass woman. In fact I’m experiencing so many firsts sometimes I’m on overload.

I can’t even tell you if I’m winning because I have nothing to compare it to. Im just doing it all day every day and I wouldn’t be able to do it without all of you.

Every single person in my life is seeing me through. It doesn’t matter how close we are, what truly matters are the actions that each of you take to let me know you care.

The texts

the presents

the presence

the laughter

the dates

the shenanigans

the tears

the food

The Dranks

The exercise

the friendship, and so fucking much more.

Some days I’m in the fog feeling heavy and weighed down by the grief that I’m experiencing and other days I find myself singing in the shower again.

I’m not sure if I’ve told you how much I appreciate you and your presence in my life.

I’m not sure if I’ve verbalized it enough but I love you and everything that you do for me.

I love my relationship with each and every single one of you.

It’s easy to be friends with someone when life’s easy and fun, but those who are willing to sit in the dark with you are keepers.

I’m more then half way through all of it. Just a few more months of the meantime and then this crazy year will be behind me.

But I see why God put you all in my life!

He knew exactly what kind of tribe it would take to endure this year and he lined you up all perfectly.

One day very soon I’m going to be myself again, or actually a fucking better version of myself!

Soon I’ll singing again all day every day. I’ll be making you smile and laugh and forget about your bad day and I’ll remind you why we’re friends in the first place.

To my Tribe I love you ❀️

I thank you and I can’t wait

To see where the summer leads me

Cray cray Tay Tay is returning slowly but surely

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

Your spiritual badass warrior under construction thankful for the best tribe in the entire universe

Taking my own advice…..

Good morning beautiful souls. I’ve missed you the last couple of days, but I’m back.

In the midst of the chaos there are times when I feel as though I’m failing at life. Then there are other times when I’m confident and sure that I’m exactly where I need be.

Then there are times when I’m like girl you need to take your own advice. You need to get real with being your own best friend.

I don’t care if that happens to sound cliche because it’s simply the truth. I do need to listen to the shit I tell my clients. So with that in mind (no pun intended)my hearts got a message for my head.

My heart says brave girl you are doing amazing fucking things. You are tough and strong and mighty and you are killing it one day at a time.

Your life is full of firsts and every single thing you do is new, so be gentle with yourself. Stop judging yourself and learn to love yourself a whole lot more.

In fact make that your mission πŸ’œ learn to love yourself so much that you recognize when anyone else is mistreating you.

Your more then half way through the storms and soon it will all be over.

You are strong and bold and beautiful. You are exactly where you need to be and God has big plans for you and your future.

Don’t doubt how far you’ve come and what strength it takes to do what your doing. Your life is foggy and murky right now, but one day really soon the suns going to shine again I promise.

Until then have some fun πŸ’œ because you my glorious girl deserve it.