To the girl that’s trying to change her life

To the girl that’s trying to change her life, I see you and your not alone.

Girlfriend there are going to be good days and bad days along this journey, but I want you to focus on today.

Forget what happened last week or yesterday forget what you said wrong or did wrong and start focusing on all the shit that your doing right.

Someone pushes your buttons and you act a fool but you’ve gone 3 weeks without any negativity with that person then who cares about the second you lost it.

Don’t you dare give away the victory in the 3 week hustle for the one second where you flipped your lid.

You are strong and brave and bold and capable and your strong as fuck for changing your life.

Look at how many people live a miserable unhappy life just because they fear change.

But not you!

You my sweet girl are jumping in with both feet and taking your life to a new level so don’t beat yourself up.

You’ve got more courage then most people I know and it doesn’t matter what anyone else in the entire world thinks. What matters is that you are a badass warrior of light and love.

I promise you the more you focus on the things your doing right the less negative self talk you will have in your head.

The more positive people you will attract into your life. But only because you were brave enough to let go.

To the girl who’s brave enough to change her life you are about to be rewarded beyond your wildest dreams but your going to have to embrace the storms to get to the sunshine β˜€οΈ

Keep your eyes open for the blessings along the way because every single day there will be a new one.

Be open to meeting new people and trying new things especially with people that aren’t like you!

Get the hell out of your norm and learn to have fun again because life’s way to short to be anything but happy.

I’m proud of you and so are many others. Keep your heart open so that it can receive the love that your truly deserve.

May your Saturday be filled with lots of laughter and love πŸ’œ

Thanks for reading my blog beautiful souls

Peace God Bless Namaste

Break the chains and fly away forever free to be your authentic self πŸ’œ

Starting over means new adventures

I’ve always wanted to go see Justin Timberlake in concert, he is my secret boyfriend after all.

I even went a few years back and tried to get tickets but those bitches were sold out as soon as they went on sale.

I was defeated when this happened because I had it all planned out and then we couldn’t even get tickets. I seriously went into a depression after that for a little bit and it took me a while to recover but here I am.

Ha ha ha

Ok maybe that’s a little dramatic but I was disappointed and it did hurt my heart a little.

Fast forward to 2019, and while taking my daughter to school we hear that that Mr. Sexy pants is going to be back in Ohio.

She’s like mom you should totally go to that concert while dad and I are gone in Florida.

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

At first I’m like ignoring her, and then I’m like wait a minute, your right I do need to do this.

And so on Sunday night we went to see this little hottie, and he did not disappoint.

I can’t tell you how many years I put myself on hold just so I could support my husband and his dreams, his career, his education and all of his endeavors.

I’m not the least bit bitter about this because that’s what women do. They sacrifice their own lives to raise a family and to keep everyone happy.

Women have a shit ton more work on the emotional side of caring for others needs and keeping things running smoothly for their entire families.

In general women have been taught that their dreams are not as important as the man’s. They’ve inherited generations of dysfunction from their grandmothers, their mothers, and the aunts that came before them, and when they get married they get the pleasure of inheriting yet another set of unrealistic expectations from someone else’s family.

But sometimes women wake up and they say no this isn’t going to work for my family and I.

I’m not ok with mediocre love and I’m sure as hell not ok with settling when I only get this one miraculous chance at living.

When you know better you do better. Now I’m beyond blessed even in the middle of the mess because I’m teaching my daughter what self love looks like.

I’m letting her know that she can’t pour from an empty cup and that we aren’t here to make anyone else happy.

Happiness is an inside job and everyone’s responsible for their own happy.

Theres a new generation of women on the rise. It doesn’t matter what their age is because this isn’t based on numbers. Instead these ladies speak truth to bullshit but do it eloquently at all ages.

These ladies know that guilt is a wasted energy and they don’t fuck around with it ever.

These women aren’t jealous and insecure and they never ever talk bad about their friends. They build each other up.

They don’t make themselves small to make other people happy because they know that being different is their gift.

These ladies are wholehearted and your negative opinions don’t hold a card to the bright lights that they choose to shine even during the darkest of times.

We are strong

We are brave

We are light seekers

And

We are truth tellers

We never put ourselves last

We have boundaries like a mother fucker

And we never apologize for being ourselves

I couldn’t be more excited for my new life, the one where I learn as much from her as she does from me.

WholeHeartedVibeTribe

Love you all

I’m still plugging away at my book and I’m still toothless at my moms but stay tuned for new updates πŸ’œ

Thanks for reading my blog and supporting my dreams

Peace God Bless

Namaste

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

#confidencecoach

An open letter to my fucking fabulous tribe πŸ§˜β€β™€οΈ

Dear friends,

I know I’ve not been myself lately, but the truth of the matter is that I don’t really want to be that old girl anyways.

But the parts of me that you love and adore are still inside of me I promise. I know there are times when your proud of me and there are other times when your worried about me and I just wanted to say thank you.

Thanks showing up for me!

I’m 100% confident when I say I wouldn’t be able to be who I am without all of you.

I’ve never gotten a divorce before and I’ve sure as hell not been toothless as an adult. It’s my first time living in my moms house as a grown ass woman. In fact I’m experiencing so many firsts sometimes I’m on overload.

I can’t even tell you if I’m winning because I have nothing to compare it to. Im just doing it all day every day and I wouldn’t be able to do it without all of you.

Every single person in my life is seeing me through. It doesn’t matter how close we are, what truly matters are the actions that each of you take to let me know you care.

The texts

the presents

the presence

the laughter

the dates

the shenanigans

the tears

the food

The Dranks

The exercise

the friendship, and so fucking much more.

Some days I’m in the fog feeling heavy and weighed down by the grief that I’m experiencing and other days I find myself singing in the shower again.

I’m not sure if I’ve told you how much I appreciate you and your presence in my life.

I’m not sure if I’ve verbalized it enough but I love you and everything that you do for me.

I love my relationship with each and every single one of you.

It’s easy to be friends with someone when life’s easy and fun, but those who are willing to sit in the dark with you are keepers.

I’m more then half way through all of it. Just a few more months of the meantime and then this crazy year will be behind me.

But I see why God put you all in my life!

He knew exactly what kind of tribe it would take to endure this year and he lined you up all perfectly.

One day very soon I’m going to be myself again, or actually a fucking better version of myself!

Soon I’ll singing again all day every day. I’ll be making you smile and laugh and forget about your bad day and I’ll remind you why we’re friends in the first place.

To my Tribe I love you ❀️

I thank you and I can’t wait

To see where the summer leads me

Cray cray Tay Tay is returning slowly but surely

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

Your spiritual badass warrior under construction thankful for the best tribe in the entire universe

Taking my own advice…..

Good morning beautiful souls. I’ve missed you the last couple of days, but I’m back.

In the midst of the chaos there are times when I feel as though I’m failing at life. Then there are other times when I’m confident and sure that I’m exactly where I need be.

Then there are times when I’m like girl you need to take your own advice. You need to get real with being your own best friend.

I don’t care if that happens to sound cliche because it’s simply the truth. I do need to listen to the shit I tell my clients. So with that in mind (no pun intended)my hearts got a message for my head.

My heart says brave girl you are doing amazing fucking things. You are tough and strong and mighty and you are killing it one day at a time.

Your life is full of firsts and every single thing you do is new, so be gentle with yourself. Stop judging yourself and learn to love yourself a whole lot more.

In fact make that your mission πŸ’œ learn to love yourself so much that you recognize when anyone else is mistreating you.

Your more then half way through the storms and soon it will all be over.

You are strong and bold and beautiful. You are exactly where you need to be and God has big plans for you and your future.

Don’t doubt how far you’ve come and what strength it takes to do what your doing. Your life is foggy and murky right now, but one day really soon the suns going to shine again I promise.

Until then have some fun πŸ’œ because you my glorious girl deserve it.

The year of the new…….

2019 is the beginning of a new era for me. No more life as usual, because I decided it was time to start over.

My daughter is in Florida on spring break and while it’s my first year without her, I’m most certainly making the most of it.

This year I’m having a staycation and I get to spend an entire week at my house. This makes me super excited and I’m loving every minute of it.

Sometimes in life when it comes to change we tend to focus on what we’re giving up instead of what we’re gaining.

Focus on what’s new and exciting instead of what your leaving behind. Focus on what your going to create and all the newness you’ve yet to embark on.

I’m getting a whole week of Tay Tay time.

I get to go wherever I want and spend time with whoever I choose. I can be as lazy as I want to be, or as busy as I choose to be.

I can pound with my friends or I can

Stand on my head.

I can work out with my friends.

I can hang out with my girls

I can take pictures of the beautiful sky.

I can work and laugh with my beautiful clients and friends.

I can major in workout classes around Town and hang out with beautiful girls.

I can write and get new followers.

I can play on Snapchat πŸ’β€β™€οΈ

And I can do so much more. Yes I miss the beach and the sunshine but I’ll see it again real soon.

It’s empowering to be strong enough and brave enough to start over.

I’m in love with people I’ve never met yet and places I’ve never been πŸ’œ

I’m excited about my new adventures and my awesome future and I can’t wait to share it with you.

I hope your Sunday is full of love and light

And I hope that your brave enough to live awake πŸ’œ

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

Peace God Bless Namaste

I set my boundaries and rebuilt my life

It occurred to me this morning while I was thinking about my blog And what to write today, that lots of people are super confused when it comes to boundaries.

And part of that reason is because they’ve never heard of such a thing. The other reason is that they have no clue what they are worth, so they end up tolerating a bunch of shit out of guilt.

If you want to change you life then your going to have to get real clear on who you are and what you stand for.

And then your going to have to learn that everyone can’t stay in your life. Only those people who truly get you and your heart.

Listen friends when I tell you that the only person in this entire world that you can change is yourself. I wasted years trying to get other people to change and it was a big ass waste of time and energy.

I wasn’t always sure about what I wanted and it’s taken me many years to decide what I can live with and what I have to let go of.

I used to be exactly like you until I learned what I want and what I don’t want. But now unequivocally I can tell you what I want and who I am and I won’t argue it ever with anyone stupid.

In order to create healthy boundaries you have to be able to close doors that no longer serve you. You must be able to use your words to speak truth to bullshit and you’ve got to mean what you say.

You’ve got to learn to love yourself in a way that maybe you’ve never experienced in your entire life. Maybe it even makes you uncomfortable as hell, and this is a good thing. Because we aren’t growing unless we’re doing the shit that scares us. We can’t become who were supposed to be unless were willing to look at what’s been holding us back.

Want to know who truly holds you back every single time?!?!?!?

It’s not money, or your enabling parents, it’s not your job, your friends or where you were born.

It’s you!

It’s yourself!

Your more committed to being your old self because it’s safer and it’s easier but I promise you that it’s NOT braver and it will never break the generational dysfunction.

Boundaries are my favorite and they are empowering on every single level.

When you ready to learn about boundaries and becoming the bad ass you were meant to be, I’d love to be your coach.

But until then I hope you seriously consider getting out of your own way so you can teach kids what boundaries are all about.

πŸ’œ Tay Tay

Thanks for reading my blog I just hit 200 fellow bloggers subscribing and I couldn’t be more excited!

Love my online community, I wouldn’t be where I am without you!

Peace God Bless Namaste

Boundaries are always for you and never the other person!

An update on my toothless adventures

Hey friends on the Internet πŸ’œ

This is me before my accident. I didn’t have a clue what was going to be coming my way and I sure as hell didn’t expect to be toothless.

Last year I decided it was time to start over. I can’t get into the details because I’m in the middle of a court case right now, but read some old blogs and they will catch you up.

I can’t wait until I’m free again to write about whatever I want and to say whatever I want to say.

Soon, soon, very soon I’ll be just like Ariel I and I’ll have my voice back completely. It’s really hard to write with a filter when your used to writing from the heart.

Exactly one day after moving into my moms house I had a freaky accident that left me toothless and with a fractured septum.

I’ve never broken anything in my entire life, I’ve never had to have stitches, and I’ve never had to have surgery of any kind.

But this one accident took care of all 3 of those things at once. I had to have emergency surgery wide awake to remove the 2 front teeth from the roof of my mouth.

I then had to have stitches put all up in my gums where my teeth used to be, and they told me lip would heal better if we didn’t stitch it. (My teeth went trough my lips and it wasn’t pretty)

Smiling is my favorite, but I couldn’t smile if I tried. It hurt entirely way to bad, so I spent a lot of time feeling sad and alone in the middle of a shit storm.

No talking

No smiling

No Fun

Right before Christmas came I was able to get an Invisalign with 2 fake teeth in it.

While they look amazing and most people would never know the difference, I’m ready to have my real smile back! I’m ready to have this entire accident behind me.

When I publish my book I’m going to show you guys what I really looked like after the accident. It’s pretty freaking scary and most people can’t even fathom what I went through.

As a matter of fact, I don’t think many people could handle losing their front teeth and living their lives at the same time. I know people who won’t leave their house without their side teeth, so I know they aren’t leaving without any teeth.

But I think this just helps builds character and it keeps you humble.

After months of healing I finally got to go back and start the process of getting implants. I totally wanted boobs but it looks like God has other plans for my implants.

If all goes well then sometime in May I’m going to have a normal mouth again?!?!?

That means I get a birthday and I get teeth all at the same time. I will be free to eat and drink whatever I want and I can’t freakin wait.

I share with you my tragedies so you know that you are never alone. This has been by far one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to deal with in my entire life, but I know I’m stronger because of it.

I’ve learned to overcome so much In the last year and I wouldn’t change a single thing.

Yes it sucks

Yes it’s expensive

Yes it’s painful

But I am

Changed because of these experiences πŸ’œ

I’ve learned that true beauty comes from the heart, and If your hearts ugly then so is everything else.

It would have been easier to quit life and to get really bitter and sad. It would have been easier to just throw everything away that I’ve worked so hard to achieve.

It would have been easier to stay in an unhappy home and to keep my teeth, but who was made for easy?!?!?!?

Not this girl right here.

I was made for adventure and for love and no matter what this life gives me I’ll always be ready to shine bright like a diamond.

Bling bling

One day I’ll look back on these times and I’ll laugh about my accident

But until

Then……..

Thanks for following my blog and my adventures

πŸ’œ Tay Tay