Becoming the mother God made to be

Happy Mother’s Day to all of you. Hugs to those of you who don’t have your mommas, my heart feels for you. To those mommas who have lost a child I see you, and your not alone.

I’ve been a mother more of my life then I haven’t. I had Tevin my senior year of high school and I was 17 years old. I’ll be 47 next week and my daughter Peyton is 16. So for 30 years I’ve been practicing how to be a mom through trial and tribulations.

I’ve grown over the years, thank goodness and so my parenting has changed with me. As I get older I tend to lean on Gods word for what he wants from me. As we’ve all tried the rat race of being too busy and being too tired to even hang out with your own kids.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned over all the years it’s that your kids don’t want a perfect mom, they want a real mom. I know it’s easy to get lost in thinking your doing it all wrong, but I think the worlds been wrong all along.

It doesn’t matter how hard you work outside the house when your legacy is your family. It’s been my life’s mission to overcome my childhood traumas and to pass on less dysfunction to my kids.

This is not an easy path and it’s by far the road less traveled, but I wasn’t necessarily made for easy. If you don’t know what to do, sometimes we do nothing, and so the cycles continue. But there’s hope and there’s light inside you and God made you their momma for a reason.

Here’s a little bit of advice from my heart to yours.

Learn about conscious parenting and heal your wounds or you will pass it all on. The road to hell was paved with good intentions but you must deal with your past or it will deal with you.

Don’t make your kids the center of of your universe when your spouse should be your everything. Your kids are NOT who you are they are only a small part of what you leave behind. Your greatness is in how well you love and heal.

Make time every single day for you. We were taught that a good mom does it all and receives very little. I’m here to tell you that your going to be a better mom if you take an hour a day to do yoga and to be still. You cannot pour from an empty cup and that’s Gods word not mine.

Don’t teach your kids how to be the victim in life. Teach them how to not give a damn about what the other kids say. There’s power in self love and not taking anything personal is an agreement we all need to learn.

Your job is to nurture these souls that are on loan to you, because one day very soon they are going to be living their own lives and what you put into their hearts matters way more then what you put into their bank accounts.

Mothers your jobs are simply to heal your own hurts. If you can pass on the dysfunction then you my sweet friends can pass on the healing.

May you truly learn to be different then this world.

Love Tavia

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