When we hold back our truth in stressful or uncomfortable situations, we are prolonging the inevitable, as the issues at hand don’t go away; they just go underground and come back later with more intensity.
How many times have you bitten your tongue just keep the peace?
Somehow rationalizing why it’s ok to eat your feelings but it’s not ok to speak your truths. I think sometimes we get lost in the roles we play and were unaware of how to make it stop.
I used to be the queen of this bad habit! And while I’ve always had a voice and said how I feel, there were other times in my life when I found myself unable to speak at all.
It’s as though my entire central nervous system just shuts down and goes into protect mode. My mouth can’t formulate the words I need to speak and so I end up not saying anything.
And on the complete opposite end of that I could actually use anger as a tool to keep myself safe. I could shut you down in a heartbeat if I wanted to channel my inner bitch.
Unfortunately, neither anger nor shutting down are going to help me express my feelings in a healthy way.
I’ve had to learn the hard (as a lot of us do) that I should never suppress my feelings, because they are coming out sooner or later.
If you don’t express what your feeling right now and you pretend like it doesn’t bother you, then your going to explode on someone else later on and it won’t even have a thing to do with them.
It will be your fault because you didn’t deal with your feelings in a healthy way earlier.
I’ve had to learn how to develop a whole new voice to speak in so that I can be understood. I’ve done so much work and I’ve still got a shit ton more to go.
But when it comes to feelings and emotions stop denying how you feel to make anyone else happy. Your not here to please others, you are here to live a big beautiful life full of love and happiness!
But first you’ve got to learn to honor yourself. You’ve got to show up for you and you have to change the history in your family as you know it.
You have to do better and be better than you were yesterday or last week. You have to learn to stop prolonging the inevitable by trying to keep the peace, simply because that’s not your job.
Speak your truth even when your voice shakes, even when your afraid and even when you want to run away.
Because you my darling are worth it!
💜 Tay Tay
Peace God Bless Namaste