Yesterday I started a blog series on how to change your life. The first step was awareness and basically becoming aware of your own bullshit.
It’s learning how to become responsible for your own role in your own life. It’s emotional intelligence at its finest and it’s the only way to begin to create change.
So today I wanted to dig into your most intimate relationships because they hold the key to so many things.
First of all let me explain to you what I mean by intimate. I mean anyone that your close with, and that you love. This could be your partner, your parents, your kids, your family, or your friends.
It’s literally anyone that your close to and that you allow into your heart. The people that we love the most tend to trigger unhealed emotions inside of us, because we are the most vulnerable with them.
Our relationships also teach us a lot about ourselves because they either fill us up or they drain us and there’s absolutely no in between.
That’s not to say that we don’t all have a bad every now and then, but it is to say that healthy relationships are about making deposits into each other love tanks and leaving each other full of light and love.
And on the other side of that unhealthy relationships are constantly taking withdrawals from our emotional bank accounts leaving us depleted and empty with absolutely minimal deposits.
Now that you know the difference between the 2 kinds of relationships I want you to take inventory of those that are closest to you.
Who fills you up?
Who leaves you empty?
Who truly shows up for you and has zero interest in themselves?
Who shows up and is selfish and takes and steals your time and your energy and makes you question yourself on a daily basis?
Remember how I said your going to have to get past your own bullshit?
These are the questions that are going to show you if your ready to grow or if you love being the victim to much to change.
If you want to change your life then you’ve got to learn how to love yourself. And if you love yourself then you will NOT for one second longer be the victim of an unhealthy relationship with anyone at anytime.
There might be times in your life when you have to let go of family members and lovers because they are not honoring you.
And if you want to create a healthy relationship then boundaries are key.
But in the end, you are the one who decides where you spend your time.
You are the one responsible for the people that are in your life.
Every single day your given a set a choices and you can either repeat history or you can evolve.
I know for a fact that you can change anything if your willing to love yourself differently.
Until that time comes I’ll be over here rooting for you.
I’ll be hoping that you can learn your worth so that your kids can learn their worth.
I love you friends
Be afraid and still show up!
💜 Tay Tay
Part 3 coming tomorrow stay Tuned