It occurred to me this morning while I was thinking about my blog And what to write today, that lots of people are super confused when it comes to boundaries.
And part of that reason is because they’ve never heard of such a thing. The other reason is that they have no clue what they are worth, so they end up tolerating a bunch of shit out of guilt.
If you want to change you life then your going to have to get real clear on who you are and what you stand for.
And then your going to have to learn that everyone can’t stay in your life. Only those people who truly get you and your heart.
Listen friends when I tell you that the only person in this entire world that you can change is yourself. I wasted years trying to get other people to change and it was a big ass waste of time and energy.
I wasn’t always sure about what I wanted and it’s taken me many years to decide what I can live with and what I have to let go of.
I used to be exactly like you until I learned what I want and what I don’t want. But now unequivocally I can tell you what I want and who I am and I won’t argue it ever with anyone stupid.
In order to create healthy boundaries you have to be able to close doors that no longer serve you. You must be able to use your words to speak truth to bullshit and you’ve got to mean what you say.
You’ve got to learn to love yourself in a way that maybe you’ve never experienced in your entire life. Maybe it even makes you uncomfortable as hell, and this is a good thing. Because we aren’t growing unless we’re doing the shit that scares us. We can’t become who were supposed to be unless were willing to look at what’s been holding us back.
Want to know who truly holds you back every single time?!?!?!?
It’s not money, or your enabling parents, it’s not your job, your friends or where you were born.
Your more committed to being your old self because it’s safer and it’s easier but I promise you that it’s NOT braver and it will never break the generational dysfunction.
Boundaries are my favorite and they are empowering on every single level.
When you ready to learn about boundaries and becoming the bad ass you were meant to be, I’d love to be your coach.
But until then I hope you seriously consider getting out of your own way so you can teach kids what boundaries are all about.
💜 Tay Tay
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Boundaries are always for you and never the other person!