Have you ever heard Brene’ Brown talk about the marbles? Do you Know Who Brene’ is?
If your unfamiliar with her, as soon as your done reading my blog go and check her out. She’s one of my all time favorite leaders. I wouldn’t be half the person I was without her wisdom and guidance.
Her research is cutting edge and she’s not playing around when it comes to blame and shame. Those are her areas of expertise and she knows her shit.
Unless you grew up with emotionally intelligent and available parents then you my friends are also familiar with shame and blame.
Sometimes when it comes to our hearts we get so confused because all of our emotions are involved. Our feelings tend to interrupt our reality.
Overwhelmed is a good word to use when it comes to our feelings. So we don’t always make the best choices when we’re in that mood. In fact we tend to operate out of a fearful pattern and we are running on autopilot because our fears are stronger than our faiths.
Ever wonder why you can give your friends awesome advice but then when it’s your turn to listen to you own advice you can’t seem to pull your head out of your ass?
It’s because your mind and your heart want 2 separate things and only one of them will win.
But when it really comes down to knowing what you really need, the signal often comes from the gut.
It’s a feeling that says “hey wait a minute.” It’s an instinct that tells us somethings not right. It’s the very essence of learning about your faith and connecting with your spirit.
I share this with you because it’s been laid on my heart. When it comes to relationships of any kind, there are spoken and unspoken rules.
The marble jar is just like the love tank. If people
🧚🏻♂️ support you
🧚🏻♂️ are kind to you
🧚🏻♂️ stick up for you
🧚🏻♂️honors what you share with them as private
Then these are all good things that add marbles to the jar.
However if people are
🤷♀️ mean to you
🤷♀️ share your secrets
Then those are marbles taken out of the jar.
The next time your feeling overwhelmed and your not sure what to do I would encourage you to take inventory of your marbles.
Trust is earned one marble at a time!