Everyone has a history
What you do with it is up to you
Some repeat it
Some learn from it
The really special ones use it to help others
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Oh our histories can truly make us or break us
I know for many years I avoided my history and this includes my child hood and the patterns of communication within my marriage and with my family members and inlaws over the last 20 years
For me it’s as simple as when you know better you do better
I thought avoidance was the answer
I didn’t want to rock the boat or cause drama
I was busy playing the role everyone else wanted me to play
Until one day I couldn’t find myself in the chaos anymore
One day I found myself
Drowning on the inside
I was tired of being told how I should feel and I was really tired of never using my voice
It would be really easy to blame everyone else for this but the truth is that I was a part of the problem
If we’re unwilling to speak our truth then be prepared to have your power taken away
Not wanting to rock the boat will rob you of self worth and it will shame you into silence
I’ve learned to protect what’s important to me
I’ve also learned how to use my big girl words and I’ve never felt better
I’m the girl who decided to help others
Who are you?
TAYTAYSFRESHFACES 
Nice post Tavia,
and the one who did not learn anything from his history was condemned to repeat it 🙂
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So true Ben! I come from a family that either lives in denial all the time or they sweep it under the rug and never talk about it and don’t even think that sharing your feelings will work because they will tell you that your wrong 🧚🏻♂️
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I’m definitely the person who will use it to help others, unfortunately I have many people close to me who will use history against you depending on how they’re feeling that day.
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Me too sister! Every day when I sit down to write I have to fight the fears of co dependency 💜 but I muster on because I don’t want to pass those very traits into my daughter 🧚🏻♂️do you know how many times a week I write something and someone I know swears it’s about them when really it’s all about me🙋♀️ together we can create our own new family beautiful girl
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