Everyone has a history and what you do with it is yours

Everyone has a history

What you do with it is up to you

Some repeat it

Some learn from it

The really special ones use it to help others


Oh our histories can truly make us or break us

I know for many years I avoided my history and this includes my child hood and the patterns of communication within my marriage and with my family members and inlaws over the last 20 years

For me it’s as simple as when you know better you do better

I thought avoidance was the answer

I didn’t want to rock the boat or cause drama

I was busy playing the role everyone else wanted me to play

Until one day I couldn’t find myself in the chaos anymore

One day I found myself

Drowning on the inside

I was tired of being told how I should feel and I was really tired of never using my voice

It would be really easy to blame everyone else for this but the truth is that I was a part of the problem

If we’re unwilling to speak our truth then be prepared to have your power taken away

Not wanting to rock the boat will rob you of self worth and it will shame you into silence

I’ve learned to protect what’s important to me

I’ve also learned how to use my big girl words and I’ve never felt better

I’m the girl who decided to help others

Who are you?

4 thoughts on “Everyone has a history and what you do with it is yours

    1. So true Ben! I come from a family that either lives in denial all the time or they sweep it under the rug and never talk about it and don’t even think that sharing your feelings will work because they will tell you that your wrong πŸ§šπŸ»β€β™‚οΈ

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    1. Me too sister! Every day when I sit down to write I have to fight the fears of co dependency πŸ’œ but I muster on because I don’t want to pass those very traits into my daughter πŸ§šπŸ»β€β™‚οΈdo you know how many times a week I write something and someone I know swears it’s about them when really it’s all about meπŸ™‹β€β™€οΈ together we can create our own new family beautiful girl

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