TAYTAYSFRESHFACES

Be compassionate with yourself – Eckhart Tolle
Dear friends I couldn’t be more excited to be starting a new week. Last week was a week full of trial and tribulations, and this week will be a week for reflecting. 
Emotionally speaking last week was draining. I had to witness some actions from people I love that didn’t honor me in the least bit. But I also know that it’s not about me, and it’s all about them. 
If anything it made me open my eyes and see some people for who they really are. You might think that you have to put up with people who hurt you just because they are your family, but I’m here to tell you that you don’t. 
Just because someone is family doesn’t mean that you owe them anything. I’ve learned over the years that if you don’t treat me, the way I deserve to be treated, than you don’t get to be a part of my life. 
I don’t care who you are, or what relation you are to me. I have had to work very hard my entire life to learn how to love myself again. Most of my rejection issues and abandonment issues come from my child hood. That little girl needed me to heal her and love her, and that means doing what’s best for me, not what’s best for someone else.
You don’t just get admittance into my life, unless you’ve earned that right. I am not a broken little girl anymore, because I decided to look inside. Parts of her still want to exist, but I’m confident that with the help of Lord, and my willingness to change, that I’m exactly where I need to be on my journey. 
I am a unique , loving, faithful, work in progress. Every single day I have to spend time on my heart and overcoming what’s been done to me. Emotional intelligence is a huge part of learning how to heal. If you don’t know what that is, than you need to go google it, like yesterday. 
You will never get anywhere different using the same emotions that you’ve always used. If you stopped learning how to deal at 14, than your emotional IQ is that of a a 14 year old. 
Ever wonder why when things make you uncomfortable, you tend to become uncomfortable with them? 
I’ve had to learn to give myself what I was missing all of those years. I also have to stop myself daily, from acting out and defending myself with those old patterns that no longer serve a purpose in my life. 
If you ever feel like your emotionally trapped or stuck, than you probably are. 

If you constantly respond the same way that you have for years when it comes to conflict, than it’s time to slap on your big girl pants/ man pants and do something about it.
You will never question if someone loves you, if you’ve learned how to love yourself. 
When you feel a negative energy from someone else, you will immediately remove them from your life. Because you will know your worth, and you won’t spend time with those who don’t know your worth. 
Boundaries are always for you my sweet friends, and life is too short to hang out with people who don’t respect you and your feelings💜
#emotionalIntelligence