This girl right here has been my best friend for over 20 years. Today is her birthday, so clearly I was thinking of her a lot! I was reflecting on our friendship over the last few decades, and smiling at how much we’ve changed. But, I also laugh because so much has stayed the same.
We met when I was in my early 20’s and she was still a teenager. We could seriously write a book about some of our adventures, and we just might one day. However, we would have to change some names, in order to keep some people’s secrets! But those stories are for another day.
Today I wanted to teach you about being different, and still loving each other. You see, since I decided that I want a career in networking, I’ve met all kinds of different people. I’ve tripled my social media accounts, and I’ve had to learn a new way to think about the internet in general.
There are many things about working online that are exactly the same as real life. Some people are kind, and honest, and some people are exactly the opposite. No matter where you go, there’s going to be some positive and some negative. The question is, how do you deal with those differences?
Are you an open minded person, who’s willing to listen to someone else’s opinion, even though it might differ from yours?
Are you able to have conversations with friends, who vote for different presidents?
Can you still be friends with people who don’t have the same views on religion as you?
Are you jugemental?
Are you kind?
You CAN be complete opposites and still be best friends! You CAN have completely different views on everything under the sun, and still love each other. Just ask Lajla and I! She says universe, I say God. She says Obama, I say no way. She’s quiet and I’m loud! She’s an excellent cook, I’m an excellent picky eater. We couldn’t be more different if we tried.
The differences between us, mean nothing to our hearts. Our souls were connected way before we even cared who the president was. Our bonds were created through our struggles, and through our victories. Our paths to meet each other, were well planned out before we even came into contact with each other.
There are so many more important things in the world than your opinions. When you choose to be offended, it’s exactly that, a choice! If you want to judge someone, it’s because your missing something on the inside. It’s never about the other person, but it’s always about YOU. Even if you don’t realize that your choosing, you are. It could be unconsciously that it’s happening, but now that you’ve read this, you can’t claim not to know.
Even though Lajla and I have changed our minds, we have never changed our hearts. That’s the one thing that will always remain the same. It doesn’t matter to me what she believes in. What truly matters is that I know her heart, and It’s full of love, and kindness and it’s authentic.
I think there’s a lesson here for all us to learn.
It doesn’t matter what you think, what really matters is what’s in your ❤️