Are you giver or a taker?
We can actually be both, but which one do you do more of?
I am for sure the giver, always the giver, but learning very graciously how to become the receiver as well. I had to learn some boundaries when it came to my giving.
There have been times in my life when I’ve given to the wrong people. (At the time it seemed wrong, looking back everything happens for a reason and there’s always a lesson involved) I might have trusted the wrong people and they did something to break my trust. I gave them a part of myself, by inviting them in, but they did not reciprocate. At first it’s easy to feel sad and hurt, because we are human and we have feelings, and egos, and messy emotions.
However once you get past the hurt, you realize that those aren’t your people. They are stuck in their pain and they have zero interest in getting past it. You learn their actions don’t have shit to do with you, but everything to do with their own brokenness. You learn Your energy doesn’t flow well with their energy, and that’s ok too! You learn to let go easier, and to move on faster.
You learn not to waste your energy on people who don’t deserve it.
You learn that as an adult, we get to choose who we spend our time with. We get to surround ourselves with people who help make us better. We get to make new friends, and let go of the old ones. We learn how to create authentic relationships with those who mean the most to us.
Since giving came so naturally, taking was quite the opposite. I was not good at taking, I didn’t know how to take. I had to relearn my thinking and dive deep inside my heart.
When I finally got to the bottom of why I didn’t take, I learned that I really didn’t think I was worthy of receiving. I felt that I didn’t deserve it. I had buried this untrue belief so far inside that I believed it in my core. I created these beliefs as a child. I decided these things,that weren’t even true, and then I carried them around with me for part of my adult life.
It took a really long time to figure that all out, and it clearly didn’t happen over night. If I’m being really honest, then you should know that I’m always learning about myself. I am always looking inside myself for the the answers. I will always be the teacher and the student of my own life.
In the last few years I’ve learned how to become a better giver, and a more gracious taker. By better, I mean I practice more consciousness when I decide to give. I don’t give to people who don’t deserve my giving, and I don’t even think twice about it. We can’t get caught up in the drama of those who don’t belong in my inner circle.
When I found peace on the inside, I started to attract peaceful people on the outside.
I believe whole heartedly that you get back, what you put out.
Harmony is a must, in all areas of your life if you want your energy to flow.
I choose to be giver, and by doing so I will ultimately become the taker ⭐