Because mindfulness, and egos, cannot co exist in the same space. It’s either one or the other. If we want to become more conscious, then we must learn what causes us to be unconscious. If we want to become more present, we have to see what causes us to be everywhere else, other than in the present moment.
I seek advice from my friends and my inner circle, so I know that this is an issue that we all have. We just don’t understand where it comes from, and why it seems to rule us sometimes. Everyone will not have the ability to understand this, and that’s perfectly ok. If you take the time to become an enlightened family, you’re sure to change the most important relationships in your life. The ones with your spouse, and with you children, and with your friends.
I’m going to try to simplify this somewhat, so I don’t loose you. Our ego is born during our childhood. It’s what we create in order to survive, our families, our siblings and our experiences. When we don’t know how to deal with things, such as our parents being emotionally unavailable, we find a way to deal with it. When our siblings tease us, or when they are mean to us, we have to find a way to survive it.
We will always talk out an emotion, or we will act it out. Either way, it’s coming out. There are literally millions of adults walking around right now, with a hurt ego that’s running their lives. Think your not one of them? That’s probably because your ego just said, “no way, that’s not me!”
Fear stems from the ego. Righteousness, bitter, hate , contempt, anger, jealousy, and control stem from the ego. Arrogance, selfishness, and the need to be right, come from the ego. The ego needs justified, and fulfilled. It has a job to do, and that is to protect you. The ego will fight to stay alive at all costs, and it will make you self sabotage in ways you can’t even fathom.
Want some examples of egos leading and ruining lives?
Family members who refuse to make amends, can thank their egos.
Marriages that fall apart, can thank their wounded egos.
Friendships that go bad, can turn to their egos.
Failed relationships with adult children, stem from our egos.
The way we treat others, comes from our egos.
The way we see things, come from our ego.
Being a people pleaser, or a doormat stems from our egos.
Being an ass, stems from our egos.
I could go on all day, but I think you understand the pattern. We must learn that our egos, don’t need to rule us. We must learn what we so we can heal the ego. We must be honest with ourselves, and look deep within if we want peace, and if we want presence.
If you want to give your kids the best possible life, then you will do this for them. I am on a path to help other people have their own awakenings. To break free from our egos, and the lies that we carry with them. To give my child the tools necessary to become a positive soul in this world. To heal myself so my true spirit can shine through.
Over the next 24 hours, try and see how many times your ego is triggered.
Don’t actually speak on it, just observe it, and see where it leads you.