I’m starting a new book that’s going to help me be a better parent! I loved Dr. Shefali’s first book The Conscious Parent. Some people fall in love with it, and some people think hell no! You see, sometimes parents want to read a book that’s going to tell them how to fix their child, but this book actually teaches you how to fix yourself. Yes your kids play a role in this, but your reaction or rather reactivity is the main focus. It’s about learning how to understand yourself better, and in doing so creating meaningful relationships with your kids.
I have a 12 year old daughter and I love her to death! But being a mom to a girl, is hard work. It challenges me in ways that I never knew were possible. There are times when I look at her and I’m so amazed at the young lady she’s become. Then, there are other times, when I’m pretty sure she’s the spawn of Satan. It is in these very moments that I am challenged to grow as a mom, and as a person. Anytime we feel a trigger, deep down inside our souls, then you know that this is where you need some work. Has your kid ever been mouthy? Have you ever wanted to strangle them? All parents have been there at some point. The thing is, just because we feel that way, doesn’t mean it’s directly related to our kids. Yes, they might envoke this feeling, but that doesn’t mean they are responsible for it.
This is where we have so much to learn. This is when we get to look inside ourselves, and figure out what’s really going on. I can tell you that over the years, I’ve changed my parenting style, and I will continue to learn and seek new information. I want my child to have the tools she needs to make it in this world. I want her to know that we love an accept her just the way she is, and that we need to set aside our own egos, for the sake of her spirit and individuality.
To me this means much more then good grades, because it has to do with her moral character.
I love that she’s a leader, and that she’s getting recognized for it. But I will also remember that this is about her, and not about me.
Do you want to be a part of a new wave in conscious parenting? I do!
P.S. I’m excited about cookies and hot chocolate