How to make the mental mindshift!

Today I’m going to inspire you to change your future. Of course the real work is up to you, but I’m here to get you started! Last year I decided I wanted more. I decided to start a business from home, and in doing so I changed my future. I changed so much more than that though, I changed myself. I changed my relationships, I changed my marriage, I changed my parenting, I changed the way I listen, I changed the way I see, I became more present and conscious. I became more peaceful and in love with myself.
I learned so much about my brain and how it works, and I learned about my ego too. That’s actually a daily lesson, the ego has a job to do and it’s on it like white on rice. But in order to change, I had to first understand a few things. I had to understand why certain things were triggers for me. I had to understand the pain that was trapped in my body, and I had to learn what to do with it.  
We are complicated creatures, and there are several different layers to us. At 42 years old, I’ve lived quite a life, & it was time to understand myself better. I don’t like it when I have feelings of jealousy and anger. I don’t like it that sometimes I turn into a crazy lady. I really don’t like it when I feel frozen and afraid, but I knew that if I didn’t like something, it was going to be up to me to change it.
And so began my journey into the unknown, myself! We all have the power to change, but we all don’t have the power to use our courage. Sometimes being where we are, is safer than trying something new. Sometimes we choose to be miserable, angry, jealous, mad, stressed, and all together down right negative. We choose it because we don’t know any other way. It’s the safest thing, because it’s the most familiar thing. It’s part of our default settings, but not the good settings, the dysfunctional ones. I knew there was a way around myself, I just had to figure it out.
I’m going to give you an example of being in your mind and your egoic state, versus being in your heart, and in your soul. There’s a huge difference between these 2 things. Using your mind to make decisions of the heart, is not going to get you very far. 
I can literally feel a shift inside me sometimes, when I move away from the ego, and I turn towards my heart. So here’s the scenario, while reading it see if you feel a shift inside you, and pay attention to how it makes you feel.  
You are having a fight with your spouse, it’s been dragging on for a couple of days now. You know that he’s wrong, and there’s nothing that can change your mind. You are angry, and you have every right to be. If he cared about your feelings, then he would apologize and make things better. But he doesn’t, and things just continue to get worse. The silent treatment continues, and the anger and the resentment continues to build. There is no way you are letting this go, this time. No sir-ree bob! He’s going to make it right and it’s all up to him. There’s only one way to fix this, and he knows how.   
The telephone rings and you answer it, it’s your husband, and you just know he’s calling to apologize finally! Your ego is floating around, all proud and feeling accomplished. But then he says, he has something he needs to tell you. Bingo here it comes the apology you so rightfully deserve, but only it’s not an apology. Your husband is actually calling to tell you that he has cancer. That he just went to the doctors to get his test results and they weren’t good.  
Immediately your shell begins to soften, or all together disappear. Your judgment, your anger, your false sense of ego has been thrown out the window. In a split second, it all dissipates and it’s gone. You don’t have one ounce of mad left in your body, it’s all diminished, every bit of it. It’s been replaced with compassion, and love. Your eyes begin to water and immediately you begin to beat yourself up. You feel horrible about the fight you had, and think it was super stupid. You can’t believe what he’s telling you, and it seems to be the only thing that matters. You feel remorseful and helpless.
This my friends is the switch, between your pain body, and your presence. This is where you become conscious, and are aware, and in the now. The pain cannot exist here, because this is where the love resides. You can’t have both in the same space, and at the same time one doesn’t exist without the other.  
So when I tell you, that you have a choice you will know that it’s true. You will remember this story the next time you feel yourself stuck, in a self destructive habit. You will reach deep inside yourself and you will ask yourself if these feelings are true, or if they are merely part of your pain body.  
The more you do this, the better you become at it. When you feel your ego present, acknowledge it and move on, don’t set up a tent and live there!⭐


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