I’ve always been an empath, and very intuitive. I’m really big on non verbal cues, and other people’s energy. I can tell so much about a person, even before they speak. There were times in my life when this seemed like a bit of a curse. Not because I don’t love it, but because I didn’t know how to put up boundaries. I often found myself depleted, especially if it has to do with someone I love. However over the years, I’ve learned that’s this is a gift.
I think sympathy can be learned, I’m not sure that I feel empathy can be learned. I think it’s something you have or you don’t have. I could be watching a commercial on TV, that’s very touching and makes your heart stir. Sometimes it’s a feeling that almost takes my breath away. If they are experiencing happiness, I can feel it inside my soul, it just envelopes me and takes over. If it’s a sad one, a tear jerker I feel the same way. I feel their sadness, I feel their happiness, I feel their disappointment. I feel whatever they are feeling.
There are a few times, when my intuition was totally off. When I trusted someone that I shouldn’t have, but this was just a lesson for me. But, if I’m being 100% honest, I actually probably ignored the warning signs, because I wanted to give them the benefit of the doubt. I wanted to believe in them and what they were saying. I actually pushed my intuition aside and ignored it, but in the end it made me more aware of my feelings. Empathy makes me a better person, and friend. It helps me understand people better, and what they’ve been through. It’s what makes me an amazing hair stylist, and mentor. I’ve learned that it’s truly a gift, and I should appreciate it.
Acceptance is a big part of my life now. I find that it brings me peace to accept certain things about myself and my relationships. We are only in control of ourselves, and our choices. We decide whether we react or respond, and we decide how we’re going to feel on a daily basis. We have the ability to change anything in our lives, if we take the time to learn something new. My goal is to help others help themselves. You will never find me claiming to be something that I’m not. I try to be transparent, honest, and authentic, because those are important qualities to me. I use the word try, because I’m human and I mess up sometimes. I am not perfect, and I never expect to be either. I know in my heart this is where I’m supposed to be. Sharing, caring, loving and growing on a daily basis with you.
I do believe that one person can make a difference, and that’s what I strive to do.