Refer to your past, but don’t reside there

The past is such a tricky thing.  It’s a part of who we are and it shapes our future as well.  Your childhood plays such an important role in your life.  It shapes the way we think, feel and see.  When we are little we don’t get many choices, we have to play the hand that we’ve been given.

Maybe your childhood was amazing, and your parents and family were healthy. Or maybe   your childhood was something out of a horror movie. Either way the first thing you need to understand is that it’s not your fault.  You didn’t get to choose your life, or your parents.  The older I get the more I realize that my childhood actually made me the person I am today.  It took a lot of work on myself to figure this out.

You must learn how to deal with the bad parts, and then you can work on yourself.  We all have a theme that runs though our minds.  Does your say your never good enough? Does it say your unworthy? Does it say your unlovable? Does it say your not smart? No matter what it says, you have the ability to change that story.

You are an adult now, you get to choose the story you want. You get to rewrite the parts that you don’t like, and make them better.  You get to change your life and your future too. This is not very easy, and I would be a liar if I said it was.  The more broken you are the more beautiful you can become.  

Is it easier to stay where you are? Is it easier to deny the feelings that run through you? Yes my friends it is easier, but easy didn’t get you this far. Easy isn’t a word you use to describe your past and it’s not going to describe your future either.  Change is not easy, that’s why so many people like to complain.  Complaining is easy, but what about fixing the problem.  

Here are some things that you have the power to change, but you need the courage to do so. Unhappy with your relationships? Write down your goals and ideas for what a happy marriage looks like. Stop talking about the problems and start coming up with the solutions.  If your bad with money, admit it and then figure out why. Is it because you choose to talk about your weaknesses,  so they have an immediate power over you? Don’t like your job, but your unwilling to try anything else? It’s easier to make excuses then it is to change.  It’s easier to complain, then it is to set some goals and accomplish them.

There is common theme here and it’s you! Change begins with you and you only. You hold the power and I believe in you.  I learn new things every single day. I choose to make change a part of my life, because I know I’m capable and I deserve it.  If you need help getting started, contact me and I will point you in the right direction.  Just think now different things can be next year for you.  

The past is a place of reference, not a residence 

You got this, go be the change

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