Did you know that you have the power to turn a bad day into a good day. I’m serious, it takes just as much energy to stay mad, as it does to move on. Actually it probably takes more energy to stay mad, because if your mad then your stuck. Being stuck is not a good feeling. You could feel stuck in your job, your relationship, your work out routine, or just in life in general.
I didn’t just wake up one day and now how to do this. I’m still a work in progress and I probably always will be. Once I learned how easy it is to move on then I decided to that. Think about when you don’t like someone and they did something to hurt you, or make you mad. Now imagine you run into this person at the store. Your are going to get triggered by this person, and it will be a negative trigger since they’ve hurt you in some way.
Now enter your choices. You can try your best to avoid them during this visit to the store. You can think up all the ways you hate them and why. You can hide behind every corner and stay out of aisle they are in, or you could even abandon the store entirely.
Or you could decide to forgive them. You could decide this being angry is taking up to much negative energy in your life. You could choose to move on. Depending on the situation and your relationship with the person, this scenario can vary.
When I tell you to forgive someone that does not mean that you need to become friends with them again. It means that you’ve decided to forgive yourself, and while doing so, you released some of the negativity energy from your body. Actually this is one of those things I didn’t know I didn’t know. I thought staying mad was the easy thing to do. I think I was more mad at myself then I was at her. I was mad because I knew better, I was mad because I was hurt and I was mad because I couldn’t believe that I had ended up here.
In life people will either make you feel good when they around,or they will make you feel bad. There’s no in between. Either your a positive or a negative! Don’t compromise your feelings and self worth for anyone at anytime. Don’t carry around anger and resentment, but don’t ignore it either. Most of the time our feeling just need to be validated and then we can move on.
The next time you encounter one of these situations I encourage you to remember this article! Surround yourself with those who love you, those who make you better, the people who are your biggest fans are there for a reason! But don’t be fooled because your haters are there for a lesson too!
Tavia Hayduk. Taytay514@yahoo.com
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